That's a good start JJ, I hope you continue to take it slow, and let her rediscover the "new" you. Listen well, for she will give you your leads. Patience and time are your friends. Building up trust while trying to lower walls takes an incredible amount of courage and patience.
The one thing I find myself really thinking hard on is... My ex has moved on...stated several times that she wants me to do the same. But "moving on" doesn't feel right to me! I still believe that this relationship has so much more to give each and everyone of us connected with it a better and more fulfilling life because of it! After getting together now for several meetings and activities, a couple of then really lengthy days...it was/is obvious that there is still attraction, chemistry, comfort, and compatibility. OK, Mr. Obvious, here you go with the time spiel, as you have time on your side, and it can work if you use it wisely. Patience! Understanding that my best chances will be for me to remain constant, to continue to be a better version of the awesome man I was in the beginning of our relationship.
There is a big "BIG" difference between "moving on" from the relationship, and simply put, "moving forward" with your life! We all need to build a good life....we deserve it!
M 52 W 40 D 15 (step) S 12 (step) Married 7, together almost 8 Separated 1 year before bomb from her "I love you, I'm just..." BD final 8/22/12
