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Thanks bug. No one knows I'm pregnant, let alone twins, besides you all here, H, my C, & SIL.

I was originally waiting until the 12 week mark to let others know. I'm not sure if I'm ready to tell my parents yet. This is something I need to pray over the next few days. I guess I should at least tell them that I'm going to be telling H some big news & am not sure how he is going to take it & to be prepared for whatever happens & I'm glad that they will be there? I don't know!?

In IC my C was worried last week when I told him that my parents didn't know about the pregnancy. I'm just not sure I'm ready for the conversation.

Are you afraid they won't be supportive?

No. I know that they will support me & my children by any means possible. I'm just afraid to tell them too much of anything right now. They know about OW, but H does not know that they know. It's a mess, I know. If H I ever make it, I don't really want them to know everything. I think it would best for all of us. Sometimes I even regret telling as much as I have.

My parents are very well off. My dad has told me he will do whatever it takes financially for me & the girls. This does bring me piece, but at the same time it's hard to know that I may need that. It's a struggle for me.

I can only imagine.

I would guess that when you mother sees you, she'll know. And eventually, they'll have to know but you'll tell them when you're ready.

Thank you. Now I'm going to enjoy my Saturday with my girls.

My goal for today is to keep a great PMA & GAL. I'm doing some yard work & am going to grill some burgers for dinner.

I'll keep you posted if anything transpires.

In it...I am sorry you are in this situation, it has to be a really tough spot. I am wondering why you are even going to tell H it is twins? He is not supportive of your pregnancy at all, continues to tell you he will not provide any support and you do not owe him anything. Why tell him something that may upset him, and make your situation worse, when there is zero chance it will make it better?

lovethehub-Thank you for following my story.

I think it's best to get it out there & hopefully overcome it. I don't want to get in a situation to where we may be actually working on us & then later when he does find out it's twins asking me how long I've known. I do not want to lie to him or tell him I kept it from him on purpose, no matter the reason.

I guess I just think the sooner the better. He's already bitter about it on some days, so I might as well get it out there & give myself & him more time to work through this.

That makes sense, some of the responses gave me the impression it may be physically unsafe so I was concerned. I don't know how to find previous links to go back and read your whole story....

love the hub, click on any posters name in red in the left pane. A drop down will appear, at the bottom you should see view posts, click that.

lovethehub-thank you for your concern! I'm not worried about it being physically unsafe. That has never been an issue. I am worried about what it will do to me mentally & emotionally. H is not in his right mind & has been saying very hurtful & demeaning things. I just wish I knew if this is going to be the 'new him' or if it's because of our situation?

I have another doctor appt in a couple of hours. Now I'm not so sure I'm ready to tell H it's twins or not? Why is it my mind is so hung up on this? Right now I think I'll wait see how my appointment goes & how I feel after that. I'm so confused right now.