ok. Is that somehow supposed to mean that YOU are supposed to do it, this time? If so, why?
Do you want to get D? If so, then set up mediation or file D. If not, then the onus is still on her to work through this. You are just along for the ride, doing what you need to do, within the time that you are supposed to do it, in the event that she moves forward.
Otherwise, what are you doing, to make yourself a man that only a fool would leave?
ok. Is that somehow supposed to mean that YOU are supposed to do it, this time? If so, why? I do not know. See still has not called the mediator. I know this because the mediator said she would call me if she did.
Do you want to get D? If so, then set up mediation or file D. If not, then the onus is still on her to work through this. You are just along for the ride, doing what you need to do, within the time that you are supposed to do it, in the event that she moves forward. I do not want a D, my therapist tells me that i was in a abusive relationship, and that I really need to looking into why I would go back. And I tell her that I love my wife. Otherwise, what are you doing, to make yourself a man that only a fool would leave?
I am and have been working on myself, I have learned to notice when I split into the old depressed person and come out of if.
I wrote back to w. I would rather return to therapy. And I mentioned the one therapist that she seemed to get along with. But if we return to mediation I woild like you to stay through the entire session. I asked her if she had spoken with the mediator? I do not think she has because the mediator said she would contact me if w did.
Now more than a month she still has not spoken to the mediator. Do I ask again about this. I know she has change her job, so I think now she is keeping me just to keep me healthcare, that was the one thing she wanted, my company does not allow non family members, the would charge her 600 per month for cobra. Do I just cut the strings
First, if you do not want to D, then stop asking her about the mediator. Let it go. Really. I have a pretty good idea what's going on in your head, but it is not working and understand that the more you ask, the more she might actually do it. Stop playing with fire.
I suppose you have mentioned this in other posts, but why does your therapist think you were in an abusive M?
Emotional abusive. My w took advantage of me good nature and went things did not go her way she would get very angry. Throw things at me slam doors, hang up on me all the time during phome calls. I never really saw it as abusive but the other day my therapist had mentioned that it was not rational behaviour. I also just took it as it was part of who my w is. I know I wae able to look past those things. But as my therapist explained it I was like Wow. I neve r saw it that way. An maybe that lead to my times of binge drink to ease the anxiety that I had hidden inside me. See I would drink or run. When I drank whi ch was not that often maybe once a year I would get truely polluted, I would run and run for miles somtimes more than 15 miles i would feel better then I did when drinking. Now I have come to learn in my steps to more forward during my separate the running or cardio workouts are being use on people with amnesia because it helps focus and memories to return.
I completely understand about the emotional abuse. I too had that. I still sometimes think it really couldn't have been that bad, yet I know I'm probably blocking it, still.
What makes you think that you would be able to resolve that if your M is saved?
How have you changed and how would you prevent further emotional abuse?
