Good tip ^^^. I'm a bit of an amateur chef myself, and I can definitely recommend learning a few basics first. Try learning a few sauces and make some bread. It's really satisfying. You'll love it!
M41 W42 M 12 T 15 S10, D9, twin Ds 3 1/2 BD 1/2/2013 Living as roommates Working on D agreement w. mediator 5/13
Right on papa! Ok guys take it easy on me ok this is a 180 for me and very uncomfortable cooking unless of course I bust out my weber grill
A little journal on my sitch. Yesterday Newman accomplished a lot of things...well for one thing I've got my ingredients to cook today and the other I finally had time to teach s14 to ride a bike. I also bonded with S14 and went out to dinner. Waitress keep referring to us "gentlemen", I'm thinking to myself man my once a baby s14 is really growing up, voice change and all going to high school next yr...boy time flies.
S14 is stubborn and need a lot of tough love but he comes around. So after his resistance We finally went and he learned to ride a bike. I even ordered it online so for summer he can go with me on my bike rides. He is so excited!
Since the bomb I found a lot of time for the kids. Pre bomb, well were alway busy--W has big family and pretty much every weekend there's a gathering...now I'm realizing part of that took away some of my free time with the kids. That's where w & s3 went yesterday and I wasn't really in the mood to fake it yesterday being a perfect family. S18 well you can guess hung out with her friends. She's such a good kid, got some scholarship money for college helps but I still have to dish out the remaining balance.
My interactions with my W are pleasant. Her coldness is somewhat gone. I woke up in the middle of the night not realizing I had put my arms around her. Last time that happened my arms basically flew out the window by her pushing it away woke up the living crap out of me so these days I will quickly move my arm. I guess unconsciously after sleeping together for 18 yrs my arm grew a mind of its own and find its way around her. Well last night she didnt push it off her arm was even on top of mine.
I know this could be temporary or short live but I know this when the coldness start is when she's communicating with OM..just my observations since the bomb. Now I'm not making a blanket statement but in my sitch this is what's happening. I'm not saying she loves me or whatnot but I just feel she definitely treats me better. It just feels the sitch improve without OM in the picture.
Well I will let you chef buddies know what happens to my cooking today.
Newman
me40; W43 M18; T~20 D18; S13 & S3 bomb 5/9/11 EA busted 4/30/12; 9/4/12; 4/29/13; 6/10/13 same OM
Separated 4/1/14
"Even a flicker of light will shine through darkness-12/25/2012"....better days ahead.
sounds wonderful Newman... I am starving for the touch of my h. Please go slow with that!
M:46 H:49 T:20yrs myD:22 H distant summer/12 H sleeping in b'ment: Nov/12 BD: Dec 2/12 asked me begin to move end of Jan/13 moved Jan 7/13 (left my stuff) "agreed" to "working on r" Mar 3/13(lipservice!)
I empathize with the not touching. Before W and I separated it was really difficult to handle. A little space has helped a ton. I feel for anyone who is emotionally split but still sleeping together.
Me-36 W-31 M-7 S-5 BD Dec/12- things were wrong for awhile, head was in the sand
Seeking means: to have a goal Finding means: to be free, to be receptive, to have no goal
Waiting for magic thanks I have some thoughts on what you've said but all this cooking I'm drained
Hey moth & papa it was a disaster the meat came out too salty...W got home with D18 in the middle of my cooking and had this confused look because I'm in the kitchen. She cooks very good so as d18. Anyway she knew right away it will be salty from the way it looked. She helped me finish cooking I was gonna tell her to sit and leave me alone. But hey at least we shared some interactions and a few laughs. Well I didn't ask for her help anyway she did it on her own so all is good.
She told me what ingredients to cut down. So at least that's one dish 6 more to complete a week. I'm learning to cook because in the event of D I gotta make sure I can whipped up something for me and the kids...and if not I'm sure W will appreciate that I can help in the kitchen, it's really a win-win.
Anyways I'm drained...I also got emotional dicing the onions that thing really makes you cry lol.
Newman
me40; W43 M18; T~20 D18; S13 & S3 bomb 5/9/11 EA busted 4/30/12; 9/4/12; 4/29/13; 6/10/13 same OM
Separated 4/1/14
"Even a flicker of light will shine through darkness-12/25/2012"....better days ahead.
I also got emotional dicing the onions that thing really makes you cry lol.
Newman
I have heard using a sharp knife, cutting under water and/or freezing and onion for 5-10 min helps with the crying. Also vidalia onions are sweet and don't make you cry.
M46,W41 D16,D18 M22,T25 BD 11/12 W moved out 01/13 Piecing 10/13 Divorced 01/15 "Whether you worry or not has no affect on the outcome. But, moving forward, letting go, and making changes can." UrWorthy
Jeez you called it JP, what dull knives we have my exact thoughts...hey I gotta try that next, what you said freezing the onion, cutting under water etc. thanks man and glad your back posting.
Well busy day at work, worked almost 11hrs today W didn't even acknowledge, it just blows what can i do right? I'm just venting here-- I shook myself right away and reminded me again welcome to reality, this is how it is Newman, get it.
Looks like my work week is gonna be busy...I had the Monday blues because I didn't get to exercise, thinking about d18 will be away to college in fall. I will miss her, she really keeps me company with my sons. But that's how life is right? She's good I'm sure she will be successful in life. Pretty soon the boys will leave the nest...but at least s3 will keep me busy for a while
Ok that's my take for today. Hopefully the weather is good tomorrow morning so I can ride my bike if not I will get on the treadmill.
Newman
me40; W43 M18; T~20 D18; S13 & S3 bomb 5/9/11 EA busted 4/30/12; 9/4/12; 4/29/13; 6/10/13 same OM
Separated 4/1/14
"Even a flicker of light will shine through darkness-12/25/2012"....better days ahead.
I'm still playing it cool on the outside but inside I'm really hurting. Today I my bday and I don't expect a wish from my wife...but I do from d18. At least a text. Well the day is not over yet.
Maybe she forgot she's got lots of things in her mind. Or maybe because of the M that doesn't show any affections anymore...idk I'm just feeling down about it. But this is my choice, I chose to stay and stand on my M. I have a choice to get out but I haven't.
Got to go to work. I'll try to get my mind off it and just think just a regular day.
Newman
me40; W43 M18; T~20 D18; S13 & S3 bomb 5/9/11 EA busted 4/30/12; 9/4/12; 4/29/13; 6/10/13 same OM
Separated 4/1/14
"Even a flicker of light will shine through darkness-12/25/2012"....better days ahead.
I'll wish you a happy birthday Newman…Happy Birthday! 🎉
Have a great day! It's early yet, your D has the whole day ahead of her to make that wish.
Standing for your marriage is admirable & not easy. I know some days are harder than others, it just stinks that days like today (your bday) have to be the hard ones.
M 34 H 35 D 7 D 6 M 10 T 14 Pregnant w/ boy/girl twins-due 12/2013 BD 12/15/12
