Divorcebusting.com Forums Open Forums For Newcomers The Last DB Thread? By Tori

Ruby and Busting, thank you! Love you both.

Today has been a crazy day. My mom was taken to the ER in the AM with heart/breathing problems. She's more stable now, but please keep her in your prayers.
After seeing my mom, I attended this amazing writers conference that really inspired me. I can't wait to help other people with my book.

"Joe" didn't call me on my b-day, but who cares, really. I have more important things to think about and do. Only in-law who didn't call or send a card was FIL. No surprises there.

Busting, wish you could join us in Boston!

I have 2 months to submit the book proposal for a publishing package contest. Wish me luck.

Thank you for being there for me.

So proud of you tori for your work on the book. i think it will help so many people and is such a great way to deal with our journey here and bring something positive out of the pain.

my prayers are with you and your mom. ((((((((((((((((((((((Tori)))))))))))))))))))))

Prayers are with you Tori for your mum, and all my wishes for the book being a success.

First, happy birthday, Tori!

Secondly, prayers for your mom.

Glad to hear the writer's conference went so well and inspired you further.

You seemed to have handled "Joe" non-phone-call well. Don't worry there is a "Bob," "Matthew," or "Micheal" out there just waiting to do up your birthday big someday (maybe next year)?!

My prayers are with you and your mom Tori.xxx

Happy Belated Birthday. I love you so much. And so wish we could meet up too. Maybe one day, who knows...

Thank you for the titles on happiness. I am looking forward to reading them. The excerpt NG posted really resonated with me.


Love, Busting.

p.s. Joe is an a$$.

Thank you all for your prayers and well wishes.

Busting, who knows. Maybe we'll meet someday. Love you lots. Let me know how you like the books.
Also, you made me laugh with the a$$ remark.

Joe called today, and I asked him (jokingly, but not really) if he was making a statement by not calling yesterday. He said yes but that he was thinking about me. I kept the tone of the conversation light because truth is, who cares. I have a mission now: to help other people.

My mom is having a hard time. Another day in the hospital. They will do a more invasive cardiac procedure once she's strong enough. Please continue praying.

I continue working on the book. I think my offer is unique and will help people put actionable steps into practice to they can get out of the hole of despair as quickly as possible.

You guys inspire me. Thank you.

Tori, “Joe” is still screwed up in the head. I guess D didn’t fix him. He wanted to be friends with you, but didn’t want to call you on your birthday. So immature.

Best wishes to your Mom.

I can’t wait for your book. Keep us posted, please.

BF, thank you for stopping by. You are right; Joe hasn't learned anything from this experience. Maybe he'll learn in the future, who knows.

Thank you for your good wishes!

Hey, all.
I'm due for a quick update. Have been busy as can be w work, taking care of my mom, writing the book proposal, and going to another writers conference today and tomorrow.

I had some of "Joe's" mail, so I told him I would put it on a chair by the entrance for when he was in the area. He happened to be picking it up exactly at the time I was driving in this evening. I saw him and drove away. Immature, yes, but I didn't want to see him.

Then, a couple of hours later (probably after his tennis match was over) he calls and says he's at my door to drop of the certificate of D, which he forgot to drop off before. I said that it was best to leave it on the chair. He said, "you don't want to see me. Okay." I didn't want to see him! But I felt bad about not opening the door. Oh, well. He didn't feel bad about all the crap he did to me, so I guess I shouldn't feel so bad about this. I'm still growing, still learning...

Hi, Tori,

WHY did you feel bad about no opening the door? Because it is not in your nature not to be "nice?" You should NOT feel badly at all! After all he was delivering the "final decree" that you are no longer married. I actually think that he was a real a$$ to expect to see you and give you that personally.

XH- "Here, Tori, here's the D certificate that represents all the pain and hell I've put you through in the past __ years. Oh, and by the way I would like to give it to you in person just to stick it to you one last time that is it OVER and I've decided to live my life w/o you. And, I'd like to be friends, and hope there are no hard feelings." BLAH, BLAH, BLAH...

Tori, I think that in order for you to move forward and heal that you need to distance yourself from him. I think it is perfectly OKAY and NORMAL for you to NOT want to see him.

Stay strong, Tori. I think you have an amazing gift to offer the world--your personal insight, struggle and gift as a writer. Your journey and pain WILL HELP LOTS OF OTHERS WHO ARE STRUGGLING TO FIND THEIR WAY.

Bless you.