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Ouch! Tvs, I'm so sorry. With the pain an MLCer inflicts again and again....then again and again...it's such a wonder anyone would wait around for their sorry a$$.

Girl, I wish I could make it better. We are going to have these times. The times when it doesn't some worth it to wait/to stand.

You had a high-level emotional weekend with the party. The brunt of it was on your shoulders. It went well and S5 has another wonderful memory to stock pile in his happy-treasure bank.

Maybe a good night's sleep will be refreshing for you as well as, yes, planning on a lovely beach vacation. H will be missing out greatly. Little boys and the beach are some of the most refreshing of all scenes

You never know if he will decide at the last minute.

Keep taking the high road, tvs.
Chin up, we all love you here!

Hugs,
rH

Hi sweetie. I am sorry you are down right now.

Had a feeling she was going to put pressure on him. That's what they do when they feel cornered. She didnt count on your reaction. Too bad for her.

She is driving this right now. And while I do feel he is peeking out of the tunnel more and more, he is lost still.

You are going to have to dig in a little deeper.

This has to play itself out of its own accord or it will drag on longer.

I know that you are tired from it all, T. I do.

But I also know the kind of woman you are, and I think you need to see this through as long as you can.

I will be sending you positive thoughts, hugs, prayers and a drink or two if you'd like.

Hang in there, my friend.

Thanks ladies I will gladly take hugs, prayers, happy thoughts, drinks, and whatever else you want to send my way!

Slept well, but still feeling angry today. Who does that b!tch think she is?!?!
Oh, I remember now, the love of his life - gag! I should have known she is going to try to pull out all the stops because she is getting so desperate.

Guess we can say she was a little less than genuine with her whole I've treated you so badly and feel terrible speech!!!

And I just want to tell him to grow up, man up, and grow a pair instead of letting her boss you around.

Am going to focus on vacation with the boys, and other fun things I want to do with them this summer.

Really don't know how I am ever going to get over everything he has done to hurt me and our family.

Can't wait to see how this is all going to play out...

You don't have to worry about this ^ ^ ^ ^ now. The time will come and you will be able to decide. Things could look a lot different in the future than they do right now.

Just wanted you to know you're on my mind today....

More hugs,
rH

I agree with Rh, T. I am sure you never thought you would be doing what you are doing, so try not to get ahead of yourself.

You can decide all that when the time comes.

And good for you for getting the focus back on you and your kids.

Let the two of them deal with each other. Doesnt sound like a whole lot of fun is being had there. LOL!

You know what they say about the weather TVS. If you don't like it, wait a few minutes and it'll change.

I know you are right ladies. I am just feeling very hurt right now. And when I feel hurt, it is difficult for me to imagine H and I ever being happy together. It's hard for me to imagine H not having OW in his life, giving her up completely.

Though we were once very happy together, and she was nothing. Can it ever be that way again? Too bad we can't undo what's already been done...

You are right too, FY. Seems like the weather is constantly changing around here! I'm gonna put my head down, umbrella up, and push my way through the storm.

T, I know you are so hurt. This is hurtful stuff.

She is nothing, T. You know that. A bandaid, a salve. Nothing more. These affair are not buiilt to last. They cannot. They are built on lies and secrecy and broken people.

I wanted to tell you that I saw firsthand two marriages who survived this. And they came out the other side stronger than before.

They both were true love stories. And they now have a new marriage built on soulbaring honesty, true open communication and profound love and trust.

These marriages were very good but, they was a feeling of having taken them for granted and there were things that needed tending when this all played out.

I will tell you, because I have to keep it real always, that it was an extremely difficult road back for them.

But they would both say they are so thankful for the journey and the second chance.

So is it possible for you? Yes, it is, T. There is always the possibility.

Listen, I know that this is something that is so beyond anything you have ever experienced - this wound hits deep in places like no other.

But I see what you are made of, my sweet friend. And I think that for you the possibility is very real.

So, remember it is ok to feel what you feel. I'd be worried if you didnt have these feelings.

But tomorrow is another day ripe with all kinds of possibilities.

Hi TVS,

Sorry for the bad news

Hope better things come your way soon.

Dear UW ~

I had to read your post a few times, because I kept tearing up and crying in between sentences. It was a good thing, felt good to let it out.

There are times where I breeze through my day, happy and content, soaking up the kids and life in general. Then there are other days, like today, where I feel so crushed by everything, so overwhelmed by everything that has happened the past 16 months.

Knowing that it is possible to build our M again renews my hope. I know it would not be easy. Then again, none of this has been easy.

Thank you for sharing about the M that you know were saved. I feel, and have always felt, that my H and I had/have a true love story. And our story has had some very sad and difficult parts to it already, things that maybe would have ended other people's stories. But not us. Our love has carried us through much already, and there is definitely a part of me that believes it can survive this, that our story together isn't over.

But the thought of them together at the beach, all lovey dovey and basking in their affair glory is devastating. That's me keeping it real

Oh well. A month from today will be our 11 year anniversary. Gonna keep on keepin on.

Thanks again my angel