ok opt stop nagging him. Leave him alone. As long as you are mothering him about it he will never do it. But if you stop and leave him alone and just support him he will start taking care of him self.. Sometimes it takes a real medical scare to open his eyes.. I know that for sure, my son's ordeal friday night has really opened my eyes to health issues.. I take good care of myself but there is so much more that I could do, and I am going to start doing it.. I havent been to the gym in weeks. I will be ther tonight for sure.. Maybe even with my W..
Honesty, sincerity, tenderness and trust. A little less time for the rest of the world, And more for the two of us. Kisses each mornin, I love yous at night, Just like it used to be.
Our new T talked a bunch to us about Jung's Child/parent roles and Kevinlost seems to have a point. Trying to do things for him seems to fall into that you are the parent he is the child role. Though, this all seems like really vital stuff. Our T suggestion was to approach conflicts/conversations in an adult to adult manner. I'm sure you've tried, but can you state simply that you are concerend for his health, will he go to ______ and begin treatment or talk to the doctor and come up with some everyday things he can do to control this. I'm struggling with the right wording here, but somehow to approach not as a parent with a disobedient child, but a concerned friend?
Actually, I think you misunderstood me: I quit trying to do something about his health a long time ago. Probably a good 4 or 6 months ago. I told him what I felt and what my concerns were, and he said he'd take care of it but he did not.
He may have gone to an endocrinologist (he said he had), but did not go to the diet class and never followed through (and did not want me to go with him). So I did not bring up the topic any more, nor do I intend to. He is a big boy and I do not want to be his mother (actually the mother role was, disgustingly enough, filled by OW who is a good 7 or 9 years older than him).
I just mentioned all the things I had tried in the past because Ellie brought up trying to help him deal with the disease... I pick my battles... and make sure he has valid health care coverage.
"You don't throw a whole life away just 'cause it's banged up a little"
Tom Smith in "Seabiscuit"
Hi Opt, Just wanted to let you know I was checking in. I still am so relieved that that awful not-knowing period is over. It sounds like you are being incredibly strong and patient. How do you do it?! But the signs seem good!
hey opt I havent heard from you in a while. How are you doing?
Honesty, sincerity, tenderness and trust. A little less time for the rest of the world, And more for the two of us. Kisses each mornin, I love yous at night, Just like it used to be.
But the signs seem good! 