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Last night after a few drinks and of course being angry at GF, he invited me to stay tonight...I said wait until tomorrow.

Of course, clearer heads prevailed and he said can we have dinner out (previously he had invited me over for dinner) and that he did not think it was a good idea if I stayed the night. And said "Are you okay with that?"

I replied, Of course!

so, present moment, today, keep on my track, enjoy the time spent with H and just breathe...

Wow, Ruby such a turn of events.

Must be so difficult to navigate but you seem to be holding steady.

All I know are two things:

We have unwritten pages, what they are, when they will occur, I do not know

He is not ready now, he does not choose this life, as a family. That is not my path to walk.

Talking yesterday with H I mentioned that my love was unconditional (this is before break up btw) . That meant it was given freely with no expectation of anything in return; a gift so to speak. And that it meant letting people you love walk their own paths.

I believe this and on days where I am grounded and balanced, it is easy to believe and let go.

Today will be a little more difficult lol. Even meditation was a bit of a fail...sigh

IO, You sound good. Keep up the great work you are doing.

Best,
NLW.

I believe this and on days where I am grounded and balanced, it is easy to believe and let go.

I so understand this!

Meditation is never a fail.

Ruby,

The turn of events is indeed amazing. I am glad you are staying grounded, althought I cannot imagine how hard it must be. Expectations have a way of sneaking in when we least expect them...

You are right, your path has not changed. You will continue living and being the fabulous you that you have re-discovered. As for your H, it sounds he still has a lot to sort out and work on himself. Time is on your side - use it wisely and things will fall in place as they need to - in time...

((((((Ruby)))))))

"Talking yesterday with H I mentioned that my love was unconditional (this is before break up btw) . That meant it was given freely with no expectation of anything in return; a gift so to speak. And that it meant letting people you love walk their own paths."

LOVE THIS! In saying this to H you have really let go and let him go...to make his choices, walk his path, and you walk yours. Maybe they will merge, maybe they won't, only time will tell.

But, I have been in awe of the path (higher ground) you have chosen along your journey. You have kept the door wide open for your H and he sees that.

He does have work to do. A long road of work, but you have been there for him regardless of the bumpy road he has traveled.

Good for you, ruby!! No expectations, of course!