As for how things are going now - he goes from wanting to buy a place together to not being sure if he can trust me - in the same day! So I'm trying to give him space to figure it out. I am supportive of the moving in together, but want him to do it for the right reasons...
We went to visit a home last weekend and we drove around looking at others, it was a lot of fun. I think there is progress...I feel that he's starting to have feelings again - but if so, he doesn't share them with me.
Keep following the DB principles Mandy, your doing fine. I'm rooting for you.
You can not change your past, but you can ruin a perfectly good present by worrying about the future.
Hi Mandy, have you ever read "Hold Me Tight" by Sue Johnson? I thought it was a useful book for how couples can reconnect and exercises for developing a bond after being caught in these cycles of misunderstanding and feeling abandoned. Curious about your opinion, if you have read it or if you pick it up.
Good to hear your sitch is making progress. His actions are worth holding onto, even if he isn't saying much right now.
H: 38 xW: 38 M: 16 T: 18 S: 9 BD: 2/2012 W moved out 4/2012 D: 11/2012
M:46 H:49 T:20yrs myD:22 H distant summer/12 H sleeping in b'ment: Nov/12 BD: Dec 2/12 asked me begin to move end of Jan/13 moved Jan 7/13 (left my stuff) "agreed" to "working on r" Mar 3/13(lipservice!)
