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You guys are totally correct in saying that WAS gets a free pass most of the time. The closest I have ever come to saying anything was when I told W that it took two people to get us to this point. She agreed but I didn't press it any further.

They totally get a free pass. That's why I'm praying we make it to MC, even I we can't make it work I will not be the only one seeing the things I see

Ok, how do I respond to this text?
W: going to eat at 6:45 with (friends). If you want to go you can meet us there.

Not sure how to take that. Previously text would have just said, "going to eat at 6:45. See you there.

Can't really tell if this is an invitation or not. If I don't go will it seem like I am avoiding her or pouting? I really have no reason not to go except that I don't want to go if she doesn't want me there.
Thanks in advance for the comments.

Thanks for the invite, but I already have plans would be best if you actually did have plans:)

That would be the best IF I already had plans. Unfortunately I have no plans. I would like for my plans to involve my kids (really, entire family).

The text seemed like an unvitation. Or am I just ready too much into it?

If you want to go, go. If not, don't. I wouldn't worry about it so much. Being so uncomfortable with the invitation, it seems like you would be uncomfortable at dinner.

You are correct. Do what I want to do. I want to go so I am going. Done.

How did dinner go?

Thanks for asking Rock. It actually went well. We went with some friends and really had a good time.

On the way home however, while I was driving a folder slid out from under the seat. I reached down and picked it up and it was information about an apartment that she went to look at yesterday. I know she told me that she was going to do it but just seeing it actually felt like a punch to the gut. I just placed it on the console and acted "as if". Nothing was said about it by either one of us.

This is really happening and it just $ucks!

The thing that gets me is how nice she has been today. She has texted me jokes and random pictures/posts on Facebook that I would think are interesting. She confuses me to death.

Glad to hear dinner went well. I think she is more relaxed probably because she has finally got the stress out by telling you she is moving forward with everything.
You just keep working on Grizz and acting as if