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Think social subguy, thinks friends. That is my D too!! But she doesn't get to see her dad that often either

They text and talk, but she values the one on one time, I think


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Okay, seriously? No willpower. said I would not stalk FB. New pic up for H, I don't know who is kissing his cheek (maybe work partner). A woman (GFs mom) "likes" photo and H posts yesterday "In a Relationship"

Ugh. Plus he has pulled back on all comms. I know, I know..... just venting a bit. Will go for run, tidy up, dance my assets off to ABBA, laugh, joke and talk tonight and enjoy life.

Does he see the road trip as I spent day with wife and always felt I would rather spend it with GF

Did he spend day with me and think "I could do this?"

Did it confuse or resolve his path....Really, I do know that I cannot mindread and his actions or thoughts should not affect mine, but truth be told, they sometimes do. The thing is that I am becoming more aware of this push and pull, at least. So I can make the choice, even if it is not the right one. Step one, awareness and fessing up .

Although I am getting out and doing things, I still feel as though I am waiting for my life to start, well, at least these days. I start school full time in September and have an eye towards that as fully occupying every second.

I think I am just tired today. Let's get through today and tomorrow is another day Scarlet

Hi IO,
In relation to your previous question: "When do you move on? What gives it that final last push?"

For me I think it has to do with intractable nuttiness on H's part.
Mine is just getting weirder and weirder and twisting everything that any of us (me, D17, S14) says or does into something that's against him.

It's just getting too much to deal with.

I think it would be best if we just told him to keep away from us, period. It's like dealing with a mad person. If this keeps up, we will all just feel relief when he's finally out of our lives.

Notable line from Anchorman that the kids and I watched tonight: Brian Fantana to RB: "Sounds like you have mental problems, man".

I'm glad I'm not the only one who doesn't get the alt/friendly thing. It's like a riddle :-) Some day I'll get it. I'm using all my puzzle solving skills!

Have a great weekend, Ruby.

I will, I will catch up on everybody tomorrow.

Text H, he doesn't text back...the pullback begins GF comes back tomorrow. Text kids text finance, he asked if I was in this week (town) I said Monday and Friday.
He said maybe Friday for coffee, Monday was crazy..
At least he remembered what i said lol!!

Tori and subguy, this site is intended to be a private forum for those of us who are all here, working through some very personal times in our marital life.

So for that reason, it is strongly advised that certain information that might detail our real identity, not be posted here.

There was a time though, that the forum was not quite so closed or private. When people from this forum shared personal information and met up in real life, using familiar social networking tools which I'm sure you guys are familiar with.

Outside of this forum, we are all free to interact with whomever we wish. Except when it may put other members here at risk.

Hope that makes sense.

Thank you, Kaffe Diem. I completely understand. Maybe it's best to be in the dark, so we can all be 100% open about our sitchs.

Ruby, TTYS!

NP, tori. Just to be clear, I am connected with DB members on the alt. It is simply important for us to understand that if we do so, we protect other DBers and their families and especially children by not cross referencing alt and here.

Originally Posted By: Inside Out

I have a question.... I would also like to hear about those who thought they were done but decided they weren't? How did that change? Just interested I guess

What did it for me? Walking away and realizing that my W was not the source of the problems I had in life. I had basically cut all communication with her except for what she initiated. Even then I answered only what I needed to. Gees, maybe some of the things W had to say were actually true...

When I post my story, which will be soon, I will expound on more of my journey to where I am right now.

MrCAS, I look forward to reading your story.

I am looking to just gain a little insight to people's thoughts and what led them to the process and through the process. What commonalities and differences.

Kaffe Diem (I wanted to shorten to KD, but somehow that seemed oh, so wrong )
I understand as well

FYI?? Just Dance ABBA??? A blast