your H sounds like a typical child who doesn't like what parent/authority figure A (you) has to say so runs to parent/authority figure B (judge). And OH NO! B is a meanie too! So back to A the child goes, whining "I'll be good!"
So sad the world is against these innocent WASs
I identify with you feeling sad about the "glimpse" you had of your old H. While my H was recently up w/his parents I had a dream. In the dream my old H, who I haven't seen in about 20 years came to me. Sat with me. Put his hand on my cheek and looked me in the eye (this right here is a dead give away that dream me is seeing an H from the last millenium)Old-H says "I know I'm not making things easy for you right now. I'm sorry. I can't tell you this but I do want you to be there when I come out of this storm." Of course this made dream-me cry. So old-H kisses my forehead and hugs me, telling me its going to be ok.
Well I woke up crying. Lol.
But we don't live in a dream do we? (Nightmare is more like it ) I understand why the MLC changes history - it makes this awful new "present" slightly easier to deal with because they don't have to acknowledge what they're losing.
Stay strong W,H. I think you're doing great.
Me 46 H 56 M 22 yrs S22, D20, Twin Ss18
You teach people how to treat you by what you allow. What you stop. And what you reinforce. ~~~~~~~ A lack of boundaries invites a lack of respect.
H actually wanted to take me to lunch to discuss this latest round of events. Hee hee hee...I don't think so. Too little, too late. The last time he wanted to take me to lunch was when he found out I retained an attorney. No, he doesn't want anything from me. Right.
He knocked on my door last night and asked if I still had his recorder. Yes, and I handed it to him along with the checkbook since D is getting soccer pictures taken tonight and H will need it. I honestly think he was worried that I gave the recorder to my attorney. I never even had a chance to listen to it myself.
This morning he is just yelling at the kids. He is just being a real jerk. I got out of dodge before he could aim his arrows at me! LOL! Poor kids and there isn't anything I can do about it except teach them to be strong and to not let their father bully them.
IDK I think he's at the cracking point. He looked like heck this morning. But then I have thought that before and he keeps on going just like a roach.
And he raised the issue of the late payment again. He said he was going to call them and demand they issue verification in writing that this hasn't gone to collections. Whatever. Do what ya gotta do, just keep me out of it.
Like I said, I'm not angry. Just venting and moving on.
Goodbye Yellow Brick Road
"What do you think you'll do then I bet that'll shoot down your plane It'll take you a couple of vodka and tonics To set you on your feet again
Maybe you'll get a replacement There's plenty like me to be found Mongrels who ain't got a penny Sniffing for tidbits like you on the ground"
AT BD: WH 41, J 43; Bomb 2/5/2012 Two kids, one dog D Final 6/18/14 J marries OW 1/24/15 "No matter where you go, there you are"
"Don't wish it away Don't look at it like its forever Between you and me I can honestly say That things can only get better
And while I'm away Dust out the demons inside I know it won't be long Before you and me run To the place in our hearts Where we hide"
Wacko has lost the privilege of taking a fine woman such as yourself out to lunch - or anywhere really. Let him take Gouda girl out and whine and complain to her instead!
Keep on keepin on girl!
Bomb January 2012 - doesn't feel the same about me
~ "There is nothing love cannot face; there is no limit to its faith, hope, and endurance."
Gouda girl!! Oh that's rich!! Lol!! Would you like some cheese with that whine!?!
He's going off again. the kids wanted to play Twister with H and what an old man he is. Lol!! He even accused me of "tampering" with the spinner to make the game more challenging for him. Whatever. Big baby.
D had another meltdown and of course it's all my fault. No, she knows how to push your buttons and you let her. Know I hear him knocking on my door to talk. Oh no. I don't think so.
"I hear you knocking but you can't come in I hear you knocking but you can't come in I hear you knocking but you can't come in Come back tomorrow night and try again."
I've so had it with this idiot.
WH
AT BD: WH 41, J 43; Bomb 2/5/2012 Two kids, one dog D Final 6/18/14 J marries OW 1/24/15 "No matter where you go, there you are"
...and that ^^^ I suppose is because you know you're worth a lot more and no longer willing to play the games with him. Good
Quick thought on the kids. Don't worry too too much about the H rants and the kids. The kids adapt far faster and know how to handle him. It's not right, but they do know how to handle him. Or they learn really really fast.
Hope all is well,
AJ
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
So this morning D is over the top refusing to get dressed for H and refuses to get on the bus. Refuses. I get her out the door of the house because H asked for my help. But H ends up going to her school and talking to the teacher. He then calls me and announces he spoke to her teacher and wants to speak to me about it. Oh no. From now on I get all my info straight from the horse's mouth not through the H filter. So the teacher emails me and CCs H so we are on the same page that H did indeed talk to the teacher and the teacher told H to be firm with D. Duh! She also told us that D is not acting up in class at all so that just tells me it is just H. I figured as much.
I get an email from my attorney later this afternoon regarding some paperwork for the court. Also in the email is a note from H's attorney to mine stating she is withdrawing from the case. Why?!?! If it's almost over (this fall) and the property split is the easy part then why would she withdraw now? No wonder H has acted so weird lately. No wonder he is so freaked out. I guess he plans to represent himself. This is really something. Just weird.
There is a weird vibe in the house tonight. I had dinner with a good friend and stayed my distance. I helped S get a loose tooth out too but other than that I treated H like a strange dog. I didn't want to get bit.
Lord knows what will happen now!
AT BD: WH 41, J 43; Bomb 2/5/2012 Two kids, one dog D Final 6/18/14 J marries OW 1/24/15 "No matter where you go, there you are"
The last time we went to court and H represented himself he made an idiot of himself and he got so angry (at me, of course) he retained his attorney. An "attorney for men" so to speak. So I can only imagine what will happen now. In the email his attorney suggested he go to a financial mediator and I think that is where H hit the roof and saw dollar signs fly out of his pocket. Of course, it doesn't help that H had to borrow all his funds for the attorney from his "family" (OW). H tends to want to spend money, not save it.
I am so curious why the lawyer "withdrew"? Was she sick of H's monkey business or did he give her the walking papers? I may never know but I was I was a fly on the wall when that conversation went down.
Be still and wait is what God keeps telling me. So here I am.
WH
AT BD: WH 41, J 43; Bomb 2/5/2012 Two kids, one dog D Final 6/18/14 J marries OW 1/24/15 "No matter where you go, there you are"
Wishing, My xh had the same thing happen to him just days before the first meeting to go over the details of what was required from both parties to move out on the divorce hearing in June. He said that she had moved on to another firm, but if that were so, his case would be transferred to another member of the firm...that didn't happen. He retained another lawyer from another firm. Lawyers know all about mlc and apparently your h must have not been listening to what his lawyer was telling him, thus the lawyer dropped him or your h fired her. Believe it or not, this happens quite frequently in the mlc world.
Hang in there!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
I thought this happened in your situation, Snodderly. I am not suprised but yet I am. That statement doesn't make sense but that's how I feel.
I was hoping the attorney was understanding what she was dealing with. And maybe once she met me and figured out I am not the ruthless witch H makes me out to be? Maybe when she saw how he handles himself in court or in front of figures of authority she gave him an earful? I would love to find out.
So again, Snodderly, you are correct. The more I sit and be still the more is revealed to me.
Snodderly, you should write a book!! I'd buy it!!!!
WH
AT BD: WH 41, J 43; Bomb 2/5/2012 Two kids, one dog D Final 6/18/14 J marries OW 1/24/15 "No matter where you go, there you are"
) I understand why the MLC changes history - it makes this awful new "present" slightly easier to deal with because they don't have to acknowledge what they're losing.
