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AJ you are a blessing. There is no other way to say it.

This board has helped me in so many ways. I think back to last March when I was nervous to post and didn't know what to expect. I'm so glad I did. I am a new woman. I am me again, only better.

And I only have the rest of my life to get better.

WH

AJ,

I was losing any feelings of compassion I had for my stbx after his recent behaviours, but your post made me see how it's still the best state to aim for.

Thanks from me, too.

You know I think compassion is important. Sometimes I feel compassion but It's important to realize the difference between empathy and sympathy. I do not feel sympathy for H at all. But I do feel empathy. I am glad I do not have to go forward in life bearing the burden he bears.

WH

WH,

I hope to one day be able to feel the empathy you express. Maybe because he still lives here and I'm sure it's me as well, but it easier to feel nothing for Not-H.

You are correct in reaching that kind of peace...it's keeps you closer to who you are and what's in your heart! I look forward to that strength one day!

<3 dm

Thanks DM. I don't know if I'm completely there as I still have setbacks. The weather here has not helped my mood any. Kids and I are chomping at the bit to go outside and get fresh air but rain and snow have been in the forecast for the past week. Depressing.

I think I will close this thread on this positive note. Another thread is coming up soon.

WH