So after road trip, really haven't heard from H at all lol! I expected it. The whole "we went on road trip, had a really good time, but don't expect anything, I must back off now. Just in case you get wrong idea." LOL!!
Although yesterday he did text me in morning.
I had mentioned a concert on our road trip and said I was taking D. He said I would like to go. I replied that I don't think your GF would much like you going to a concert with your ex wife. He shrugged and said, whatever...
So, in text he says "when is concert"? I reply with date and he said would like to go, let me check my schedule (I really need an eye rolly smile guy here) I just replied "Cool" and changed subject.
He is picking up D tomorrow to ski. Was invited but I made no commitment.
Have a smacking big GAL tomorrow night. Bunch of the girls coming over for potluck and we have Just Dance ABBA for the Wii...:) Can't wait!!!
What a great road trip Ruby. I think I am starting to understand your friendship with H. Its a place where there isnt hurt or judgement. It a place where you are accepting him for he is, and the situation at the time.
You are fortunate that your H does not see this as a threat or pressure to him, which most WAS see when the LBS is being friendly. I think it shows a deep trust he has in you. He is one lucky fool.
I like your GAL tomorrow night. I want to come! I am a sucker for Abba! lol
TPS Me: 44 H: 42 M14 T17 S10 D7 10/10 H moves out after death of his father-same month 21/04/12 H is 'DONE' 04/05/12 OW/PA confirmed (rumors from 2010) July '14 H ends affair May '15 H moves back home
Busting!! You are always welcome Mi casa es su casa
Yay!! This is it!! Thank you, for understanding. He is learning to trust again, we both are. It has not been easy. I understand he needs this. This time, this space.
We both love each other, there is no doubt, it is just mine is different, at this point, than his.
I understand the love. And I can understand how it is not easy. But something deeper is keeping it going.
gotacha on the alt :-)
any chance you are still coming to this part of the world? ?
TPS Me: 44 H: 42 M14 T17 S10 D7 10/10 H moves out after death of his father-same month 21/04/12 H is 'DONE' 04/05/12 OW/PA confirmed (rumors from 2010) July '14 H ends affair May '15 H moves back home
And I guess it is different for everyone, but would love opinions. Now, I know this could change because we change but....
When do you move on? Not thinking of it yet, but what, do you think, it is that gives that final last push? Some people on here are ready after a few months and others are surprised that spouse is in a serious relationship, four years after the D. They have been waiting for S to basically, come back.
I would also like to hear about those who thought they were done but decided they weren't? How did that change?
Second, "alt?" I don't get it! I want to be part of it!
Third, I think the final push is different from everyone, and sometimes is not a definite moment, but something that happens over time.
I love my now XH, but I am aware that being w him would not be good for me at this point in our lives, so does that mean I've moved on? I think moving on is being OK without your S. It's completely detaching. Am I there yet? Not quite. But I'm getting there....
Well as to skiing today, it will really be a hike to the top of mountain, but not me. I said to D13 yesterday, Dad invited me to hike with you guys. She gave me the look. I said "You don't want me to come, do you?" Short answer...no. LOL!!
So I texted H and told him D didn't want me along, and I was totally not offended. Which I am not. I am glad that D wants time with H and it will be good for the two of them . I thought I would be jealous but I am actually happy D wants to have this time. I also thought that I would be sad or disappointed not spending time with H, but am not really that either.
This gives me time to tidy before the girls come over
Well as to skiing today, it will really be a hike to the top of mountain, but not me. I said to D13 yesterday, Dad invited me to hike with you guys. She gave me the look. I said "You don't want me to come, do you?" Short answer...no. LOL!!
I literally laughed out loud hahahaha! My D14 is completely uncomfortable when my W and I are around each other. She will not be quiet, feels the need to fill the silent periods.
I'm still missing the alt thingy, my head must be dense or something cause I'm just not getting it lol.
You can not change your past, but you can ruin a perfectly good present by worrying about the future.
