Thanks for posting. It means so much to me to hear from others ! It's a bit of a grounding when we are floating in space, hurting.
Its so wonderful that you are able to be there for your nieces. I m sure they appreciate that.
It's been an interesting week and a half since my XW announced she is in a serious relationship. For once, I have just pulled back and stayed quiet. I have been amazed how my XW has initiated kindness to me. I have never seen such kindness, appreciation, gratitude etc. since the bomb.
I can't truly know what is going on in my XW's head, but given what I know of her, it seems she is doing her best to "smooth over" this difficult transition for the kids and I. It must be very difficult for the parent that knows they are causing hurt for their kids and XH.
My goal at this point is to be kind to her when she contacts me BUT to try to disengage myself from all of this. Its' the only thing I can do at this point.
Me/W: 46/36 D7.6/S6 T/M: 7.5/6.5 Bomb 12/05/07 D final: 03/03/09
I agree Whitney. While it isn't what you wanted, it is a good idea to get some distance - for YOU man. For YOU.
Stay well, AJ
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
