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That's GAL! But it would be nice to have a group also.

Also be careful sharing too much of your sitch with others, that can sometimes go sideways on you.

If OW is not really interested in him, he'll have to work through all this in his own

I agree with bug, don't vent with friends. It may come back and bite you in the a$$.

Point taken, thanks for letting me know.

I'm having a bit of trouble working out how to deal with the following. At advice would be appreciated.

H and I still share a bed. One of his complaints was our lack of sex life which I agree had got very sporadic in the last year or so. I have been initiating a lot more, probably 2-3 times a week. Sometimes H responds, sometimes he is too tired or has eaten to much or just doesn't say anything and falls asleep. When he does decide to join in he seems very remote from it all, there is very little to no talking, and only a very brief cuddle afterwards. Is this 'normal' for the situation?

There is about 5-6 weeks left of the 6months that H agreed to give me to work on things. I don't know if it is his way of distancing in readiness to move out, and I'm not going to ask him, much as I want to!

My GALing for the past weekend fell a bit short, my horse riding lesson on the Saturday was cancelled due to wet weather, but I still got out on the Sunday and spent the day with friends. It's hard when there are happy couples around you for the day Hopefully it will be fine enough for riding next weekend.

After finding out that H has been texting OW and deleting the messages and not saying anything to me, H informs me yesterday that he is leaving at the end of the month, after we have been to two 50th birthday parties. It hasn't been the full 6 months that he initally agreed to and I told him so but I did say I wouldn't hold him to it and he could go sooner. I did give him the 'hope we could work on R' speech but I don't think he heard it.

I did all the wrong things after that, mentioned that I thought he was in MLC, and why I would like him to stay living at home, etc. H has never ever gone back on his word in all the tears I have known him so I didn't have anything to lose I felt. Once he leaves he will never return to the relationship. I also mentioned that I didn't feel that he had been trying to work through things as he had said originally but felt he had just sat back waiting for the months to pass.

The next few months/years are going to be hard for me. We will have to continue to work together. He still wants access to our garage, etc. I'm not sure what to do about the house key -do I keep it or let him have access to the house? How do I treat him when we have to be together for work? He has mentioned a few times that he likes the back and shoulder rubs I have been giving him, do I continue with those?

D18 has been staying with her sister for a couple of days and will continue to until later next week when D27 moves house. Originally I had hoped it would give H and I some space to talk it bout her being around.

I didn't sleep well last night, woke up a few times to find myself cuddled up to H back. It took me a long time to get used to sleeping with H every night when he changed jobs and was home every night. I hope it doesn't take as long to readjust!

First night as a 'single' woman. I had changed the bed linen and tossed out H pillow. I slept Ok until about 4am and then the brain started churning. I'm trying very hard to think of other things when my brain wants to 'relationship' think, I need a lot of practice!

I had my first riding lesson yesterday, the muscles aren't too sore this morning. D and I were to go bush walking later this morning but her work hours have changed. I might take the dog for a walk and perhaps go for a swim this afternoon.

How long does this awful heart pain last for? It really does feel like it is breaking . Childbirth seems such a breeze compared to this.