I am sorry the date didn't "click" but it did bring you further awareness of where you are emotionally. Yes, there is a lot going on for you right now, so why not take break, let things flow. Everything will happen on it's own time.
After all, no decisions need to be made right this moment...
(((((val))))))
Me & H: 44 D7, D6, S3 Together: 20y, M: 17y EA: 11/13/10, Sep: 12/23/10 EA becomes PA: Spring 2011 H filed for D: 09/06/12 D Negotiating began 2/15 OW seemingly gone on 3/15 Still negotiating D
Sorry the date wasn't great, went on one of those myself Sat... It is awkward meeting someone new. We all just want someone who we feel comfortable with but that takes time. Be friends with her, you never know where it will lead. But you do have to want to be with someone else. You just might not be ready for something more yet.
That's ok.. NG - you are right.. I DO need to be open to being caught.
KG - I plan on letting things flow.
Paige- I am sorry u had an awkward date. I have every intention of being friends with her. She seems to want to make an effort as well. She initiated an hour conversation in which we set up two different times to hang out.
We have really intimate conversations. I even apologized for being off on our date. We will see how the cards play...
... But I want to play my cards well which is why I am trying to finalize this thing with x
Btw- Paige.. You ever hear from DG these days?
M(f): 40 D'ed: 8/12
Show empathy when there's pain. Show grace when warranted. Kindness in the midst of anger. Faith in the face of fear.
DG is doing great! I told her to stop by for an update
Yes awkward date was so not fun. Was thinking I would rather be cleaning the house. He even asked me out again.... I said it was nice to meet him but I didnt think we were a match. Good Luck.
Seems to be harder to meet someone these days. Everyone is married, oh wait so am I lol!! Oh well I am so much better place right now and my life is good. I don't need a guy would just like someone to hang out with.
I like that she wants to be friends and you guys seem to have great converstation. Better to be friends first might turn into something else when you are ready.
Yes it does seem harder to meet someone these days.
I've been called old fashion because I don't initiate physical contact on the 1st date. (I'm only 30!) I guess things have changed alot in the past 10 years.
I like that she wants to be friends too. We talk every other day and have scheduled 4 different things to do together. I will take this as a good sign... of course with no expectations.
It feels good to be nervous..
M(f): 40 D'ed: 8/12
Show empathy when there's pain. Show grace when warranted. Kindness in the midst of anger. Faith in the face of fear.
Oh my than I am really in trouble!! Although since I am 42 maybe I am old fashioned!! That is great!! I miss having someone to talk to about your day you know?? Being friends is a great way to start.
Hey! I'm doing pretty good. I'm a little nervous. In a few hours I will be meeting my x for tea. I haven't seen her since August when we signed our D papers. I have no idea why she wants to see me.. so managing my expectations is a challenge. I actually opened up another thread on newcomers just to keep my thoughts separate.
I have a movie date with my friend on Friday. We still continue to text each other every other day. It was really awesome of her to text me on Easter... She is jewish and I am pretty active in my church. Usually that's a red flag for most. Christian Lesbians are like fairies and trolls... people don't believe they exist.
I find it difficult to keep the excitement in.... but I did decide that she will either like me for me or she won't. The past 2 years of my life would be moot if I didn't at least learn from my mistakes.
That means accepting me in all my mushy, loving, glory. That means except me in my weirdness.
I'm stepping boldly yet softly and with purpose.
M(f): 40 D'ed: 8/12
Show empathy when there's pain. Show grace when warranted. Kindness in the midst of anger. Faith in the face of fear.
