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i will try it and see what happens but im sure she will still give e crap no Matter what...

You know i a trying to have no contact with her. But i did send a text wishing her a happy st patties day . ANd yes I did say this may be cause im just getting angry or whatever. But i said " well lets try this maybe you will reply to me" just in a way I may have done this so that she knows I am getting pissed off for not replying. It is what it is at this point. But does anyone think that she is just waiting for me to be mean to her like she is used to with her past partners.

If you are mean to her it will only help justify in her mind that she's doing the right thing by leaving you. Yes, she may actually WANT you to be mean for exactly this reason.

Don't do it, nothing good can come from it.

I will not lower myself to her level, so at this point i am going to let it be. Like you say no good will come from it....

I just am aat an place i dont like to be. meaning having no idea what the next step is. so I will just continue to be the person i am and grow into even a better person,,


at some point and time something has to happen some moment some how, But I will stay consistent in what i do and always be positive and kind in my actions. this will not give her any reason to hate me.

my wife just did sort of the same thing. She had close our joint account because it was the only way she could get her name off it. So I got a check from the bank with the remain balance, the check was in both out names, SO.. we had to reopen an account to deposit the funds again. I also received check from the sale of our house that were in both our names and deposited then in there too. We when to mediation and a agreed to use that money to pay lawyer and court fees, Now last week she ask to remove half because she has Money. She took it out this weekend.
I struggle with how to respond to this or if I should respond at all

I am not sure of what you should or can do. But like others say to me just know you are not alone

OK well it has been some time now. so I wanted to just update the happening.

I know i was going to do NC for a while but i had to send W a email this is the email below

Hi W,

I do not know if you ever did get the christmas gift I had given you. You never said anything one way or the other. Well I am hoping you did and I am hoping you are able to go. I think it is sat 3-23-13. I also put more cash in the joint account so you can us it if needed. I just know that you are having a hard time and all i wanted to do is give you a short time to have a good time with who ever you bring.

If you did not get them please text me or email me so i can send the pdf so you can reprint them. Also if you can not use them it is ok just see if someone you know would like to go and give or sell to them. there yours to do whatever you want to do with them.

So go have a good time as i know you need it or think you do. God knows I would need it if I had to work as much as you do. God bless you Kristin keep up the good things you do.

I have sent a few texts but im not sure you are getting them or maybe im blocked or something. But just hope you are doing good.


so that was the email and yup u guessed it no reply. Well not for a few days after the concert. Now keep in mind i was not looking for a responce from her but you know how it is it would be nice to get something. so a few days later out of the blue she sent me a text just saying thank you for the tix, i just wanted to say thank you. I hope all is well.

so thats that. I can say that me and my step daughter to talk and it is very nice that she does. she does not understand her mom too for her own reasons. I do not bring things up about W and me to stepdaughter. I have been there for my stepdaughter helping out with rides to work and to just talk. infact we are going to dinner next week. she has said that her mom has become a very selfish stubborn person. i have see this as well and can say it is from the Gay girl she is hanging with. she just wants to do what she wants.

I feel bad for her but there is nothing i can do. so now easter is this weekend and do i give my W flowers as i did last year. or should i just go back to NC for now.

yes im an ass, I did it today. I sent a nice text to my W just saying how sunny it was out side and that she must be smiling to make it so sunny out. Have a good day XO.

and yuppers nothing in return yet. What a Bitch. How can any person be just so mean and not do a simple reply. one human to an other.

ok well here is a good one. I was just called by my stepdaughter. She has gotten into a fight with her boyfriend and asked me if i can pick her up at work and help her get her stuff out of the BF house. I do not mind doing this for her. she does need someone that is well stable that she can call. she has not told her mom at all. not even about the fact that we talk and i have been helping with rides.

I am hoping the BF will not be home so we can just get her stuff and get out. I do not want to get in the middle of this. But will not let the BF cause a problem. the 2nd thing is if and well im sure when the W finds out I do not know how It will be taken. I know that the stepdaughter just had a fight with the mother.

does anyone have any advice on how to handle this.

Ok well the stepdaughter is now spending the night here. i hope all this does not come back to bite me in the butt