I have a similar situation in regards to benefits etc.
Right now my wife has more spare money, mobility, her own house and a weekend babysitter.
She's able to do whatever she wants on weekends. I'm working all week and then I look after the kids all weekend.
Very hard to get traction in reconciliation when some things are even better for them right now.
I suppose one silver lining is if they do ever choose us again they won't be using us just to have an easier life.
M36 W31 S4 S2 T5 M4 BD Jan12 S July12 Recon Sep12-Nov12 ILBINILWY Jan13 OM x 2 in 2013 W wants R July 13 I start D. Jan 14. Meet GF Nov 13 Have I changed enough? Jul 14
T1000 glad I'm not the only one . I think your last sentence is spot on and what I keep trying to tell myself. That if we R it will be because they really want us.
In truth though I think it is hitting W self esteem even hard. She was a proud career woman when we met and a proud W and mother.
For her to leave and go on benefits confirms to me how desperate she was to get out and I have some serious work to do to make sure that a life with me would be better.
But yes, a bit more common sense from a govt that supposedly supports M yet makes it so easy to leave one would help
Just another short note that as i have passed the 100 posts I am starting a new thread over on the MLC forum.
Thank you very much to everyone that has and continues to help.
. I think your last sentence is spot on and what I keep trying to tell myself. That if we R it will be because they really want us.