I do hope you keep posting. I know I will surely be wanting to pick your brain and ask some Q regarding your experience so I can understand what my H is going through. (I hope you don't mind).
thanks!
I'm not going anywhere. Questions are welcome, as long as my answers don't produce guilt and hurt. Deal?
Last evening there was just the outside chance of running into the former OW at a community function.
I think you should be completely transparent with your wife BEFOREHAND and, seriously consider not attending ANY community event where you are likely to run into OW.
I also think that if you are out and about town and run into OW --- no matter where you are --- you should say absolutely nothing to her and immediately leave the area. Within 30 seconds you should be calling your wife and informing her. It will be much easier to explain hightailing it out of there than trying to believably relate a 1 minute to 30 minute "polite" or otherwise conversation. Your wife will doubt you no matter what you tell her you talked about --- no conversation at all is the best idea.
Also...a couple questions.
Did the OW's husband find out about the affair?
Do you see or run into him around town too?
Ever consider moving?
No contact with your affair partner would be really nice for both you and your wife.
