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Get on living your life, be a bit more mysterious.

Move forward(not on).

Yes no more relationship talk, if he wants it, then you will know.

I would go completely dark on him. If he wants contact then let HIM contact YOU. Quit emailing him. Be short if he calls, act like you've got other things to do and he's interrupting you. Then get out and get a life. You're way too attached to him and it's hurting you, your PMA and your chances of reconciling. Detach. Leave him alone. Don't answer right away if he texts. Don't pick up every time he calls. Give him all the time and space he wants.

I can so feel your pain. My sitch a little different but my X, yes now X, acted the same way. He wanted nothing to do with me. Made his decision and that was that. When I finally had to get an attorney she told me after 22 years of experience be prepared that he is seeing someone else. SHOCKED! I didn't believe her although all the signs were there. In the end he was seeing someone from work...and still is. I am trying and doing all the GAL, PMA, 180, etc. Time and patience are my only friend right now. I HAVE to focus on living my life without him. I wish I had more info from people on this site but no one is quite ready to respond to me. I will be watching your post. I wish you all the best. My X didn't even want a separation just a straight get you out of my life divorce. Sad part is I still like you am in love with him and my heart just breaks every time I see him.

Thank you AS...I will be a bit darker as I move forward.

I have been darker since my last posting...D16 moved back in with me when H went back overseas. She has been an angel. I have been completely upbeat about H and never said anything negative about him. She has had to deal with him herself with me not filtering him. She is so upset with the way he treats her and me. She asked me the other day how in the world I could stay married to him for so long. She told me to start dating. I can't. I still love my H. I guess we will see how he acts when he gets home on the 15th. I am taking his vehicle to a friends house to pick up and not telling him my new address yet. I don't want him at my house without me there. I want him to see how much I have moved forward, made a new home for myself and our girls. The dogs are settled and happy and my home is happy. I want him to miss that.

I have made my house mine. I've painted most of the house, changed out the electrical switches and plugs from the nasty 1970's brown. I have hung up 3 pictures and will hang up more this weekend. Its hard opening boxes, as each one still holds a memory, but I am doing it. The tears come less frequently and have been replaced with smiles and laughter with my daughters.

I know I'm rambling, but it does help to do that...

I have hope...No expectations anymore...Planning for a future with my girls...Maybe move to the Carribean...