Hello all! I decided to keep both the piecing thread and newcomers thread. I believe that although we aren't doing it well, we're piecing and since I STILL feel like a newcomer, I'm staying ;-) I understand your reasoning but the general rule of STAYING ON ONE THREAD has a reason.
If you have more than one, and IF WE can find both, which is not a given, that's 2 threads to follow and that is twice as much work for us to read...
and no doubt parts will be left out and you will forget some parts, and it is more easy to confuse with others, etc.
Maybe have one thread only but combine the subject "piecing for newbies" or something descriptive. But I can't and usually won't follow more than one thread b/c I find I miss history and events...and so I move on.
No offense, just thought you ought to know. I THINK newbies and MLC get the most traffic. I know piecing gets less. Your choice.
I wanted to share that 6mos ago, H eluded to wanting to work things out but didn't want to give any concrete answers. Instead he'd say to wait, give it time and he didn't want to give me false hopes. It hurt. A lot.
Now he corrects me when I say, If things don't work out... He says, they WILL! It kinda bothers me. He feels so confident about it but now I'M the one that doesn't. He is trying to show commitment and certainty. If he had not, or stopped saying that, would you even bother with effort? Isn't this him trying to be reassuring?
I got to thinking, I don't trust him AT ALL! How can I be with him if I don't believe him?
Have you read up on infidelity in Div Busting or Div Remedy? Regardless of your issues the book covers "how to recover from..." in depth.
Shows you a way to regain the trust and YOU need to let him know what he needs to do so you can feel better about things and you cannot make it "Climb Mt Everest." I mean, it has to be doable, you know? But sure, eventually if you still do not trust him, set yourself and him, free.
Figure out if this is you still being in fear, and if so, whether the fear is justified & how to get past it...
OR if you are just punishing him b/c you don't want to make it too easy on him. the absolute worst choice to make now is to choose to stay married
and stay miserable.
Make sense?
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
