I agree with Bug here too. As usual. This is a glimpse at your likely future. Why miss filming your child for sake of that. My W ( ex I guess now) deal with this every week since last year....except no OM shows up. It is awkward at first but I really absorbed myself in them and their play and had fun, especially with the team mates other parents. I does not bother me anymore. Our D14 won Provincial Gold in fast pitch this summer and even with all the tension and strain, we still hi-fixed each other. Yes, you can do it....for you and the kids, as I am witnessing too, by not even trying to overcompensate and wife is that they see through it with her and have made comments. That is your H's problem from now until forever. Enjoy and love your kids, I think he calls you when he needs you in what OW can't give him. Never supply him with this now and detach further, ignore requests and supprt. If he is not a narcissist, treat him like one and do not supply what he needs. He is cake eating. Stay safe throughout the fire and be alert. This may be a good opportunitynfornyounto handle a crisis and look after your kids in a calm, rational and logical manner. Focus on what you need to do. Here in Canada (Toronto area) is has been-15C. I will take your warmth today, but not fire hot. Stay safe and be logical and responsible and proud once you do.
M17 yrs. me49 xW47 d15 d11
BD1-Jul/11(Affair found out) Therapy 9 months (tried 2) BD2- May/12(sep) Court Jul/13 - I got 50/50 Sold home - Aug/13 Court #2 - Dec/13 Court#3 - Apr/14 ... She lost again We settled.
It's not H being there that worries me, Infact I'll be glad he is at some games. Not for me but for S8. H only made it to maybe three games last year. I should have seen that as a sign. The year before he was so upset that he missed a couple of games when he was away for work. Last year, everything seemed to be more important to him than going. It OW that I don't want there. I want to poke her eyes out with sticks! Then I feel all evil for thinking that.
H picked my children up about half an hour before the fire alert. Thankfully the fire fighters got it under control and no people or houses were harmed.
We have fires going on here and the next state is flooding! Go figure.
M: 29, H: 31 D: 9 S: 8 T: 13 Y M: 9 Y ILYBIDKIILWY 12/09/2012 ~~~~ Worrying does not empty tomorrow of its troubles. ~~~ it Emptys today of its strengths
Yes, I understand that it is the OW that is the issue being there, but the same advice would apply....except the high fives course. Don't interact with her at all. Your kids want mommy there, not OW.
M17 yrs. me49 xW47 d15 d11
BD1-Jul/11(Affair found out) Therapy 9 months (tried 2) BD2- May/12(sep) Court Jul/13 - I got 50/50 Sold home - Aug/13 Court #2 - Dec/13 Court#3 - Apr/14 ... She lost again We settled.
Aww, no hi fives for OW? Cause I'd really love to hi five her,... In the face,... With a chair,.., H too. Yeah, not good DBing huh? Lol I'm not a violent person but mess with my family,... I need to rise above it all though, for me and my children.
I'm starting to feel a strong dislike for my H, sort of like hatred. Wow I didn't even know it was possible to love someone but yet hate them at the same time.
Irrelevant! I need to get back to my irrevelant mantra. It was good for a day or two but then I stopped.
M: 29, H: 31 D: 9 S: 8 T: 13 Y M: 9 Y ILYBIDKIILWY 12/09/2012 ~~~~ Worrying does not empty tomorrow of its troubles. ~~~ it Emptys today of its strengths
I actually asked 3 therapists, 2 of them psychologists that same question if you can love someone and hate them at the same time. My W was in one of those session during MC. All three gave a resounding "Yes, of course." They say it is very typical and common. Hate and love are within the same lines of emotion with passion. The opposite of love is indifference, note hate. All 3 say this. Huh.
M17 yrs. me49 xW47 d15 d11
BD1-Jul/11(Affair found out) Therapy 9 months (tried 2) BD2- May/12(sep) Court Jul/13 - I got 50/50 Sold home - Aug/13 Court #2 - Dec/13 Court#3 - Apr/14 ... She lost again We settled.
The opposite of love is indifference, note hate. All 3 say this. Huh.
I've heard that so many times and think it's total psychobabble BS. It's like saying the opposite of hot is tepid, LOL! Indifference is the middle ground between love and hate.
Don't you think it's because for either love or hate to exist there has to be some connection? If you become truly indifferent, there is no longer feeling, good or bad.
Interesting question.
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss
No, I don't think you can put indifference on the same level or middle ground as love and hate. Love and hate are passioned emotions and feeling. Indifference is neither. So I think that indifference is the opposite of love and hate. Love and hate are intertwined. I think it's more philosophical than psychological but I think they walk the same line and are not true opposites.
M17 yrs. me49 xW47 d15 d11
BD1-Jul/11(Affair found out) Therapy 9 months (tried 2) BD2- May/12(sep) Court Jul/13 - I got 50/50 Sold home - Aug/13 Court #2 - Dec/13 Court#3 - Apr/14 ... She lost again We settled.
Wow, to be honest I don't even know what I think. I definately agree with FM but at the same time I can see what AS is saying. Sort of like a scale. Love ----- indifference ------- hate
I see love as the opposite of hate. Yeah, I think I see indifference as being a tween. Hmmm.
M: 29, H: 31 D: 9 S: 8 T: 13 Y M: 9 Y ILYBIDKIILWY 12/09/2012 ~~~~ Worrying does not empty tomorrow of its troubles. ~~~ it Emptys today of its strengths
