25. Talked to Barb from EE. She is going to call me on Monday to help me with the right language to use when approaching W. I know I am overthinking this but it is my objective to not come across as a ploy. Especially with all the positive progress we are making as a couple. We had another great day today as H & W.
I second what Bond and Drew say. Just because you guys are getting along shouldn't mean you need to act that way. If it's not a ploy then there is nothing you should worry about.
Personality is who the world sees, character is who you are
Have you considered part of the reason you are getting along, could be due to the subtle change in your attitude based on just taking the step to sign up. IDK, maybe she senses you are trying to figure it out. You know women and their sixth sense. There has been plenty of talk about how when we finally let go, our spouses can feel the shift even if we don't feel like we act any different.
Me 37/W 32 S 5 D 4 ILYBNILWY 5/12 Sep 8/12 Starting to find myself 11/12 on
You're going to a workshop for personal growth. That's a positive. Not a ploy.
As you know, if you change you might save your marriage. You might bring her back towards you. If you don't change however, and you trick her back to the same old marriage situation you had. THAT is a ploy.
I'd just be honest about it. If she wants to know, tell her. I see no harm in this workshop. H*ck if I wasn't halfway around the world, I'd go to.
Together for 8,5 years. S2 Interest in OM. She left 29.09.12 b/c we couldn't work things out. No signs of OM, not digging. Living in seperate homes, sharing custody.
PON you do not even sound like the same person is typing under your name as before. I think you can do this. Go to EE. Make it happen. Do it do it do it do it. (I'm chanting.)
Adinva 51, S20, S18 M24 total 6/15/11-12/1/12 From IDLY to H moving out 9/15/15-3/7/17 From negotiating SA to final D at age 50 5/8/17-now: New relationship with an old friend __ Happiness is a warm puppy.
My W told a neighbor that she is fully recommitting herself to the marriage . That she needed to figure things out. She is going to make it work. Since jan 2 my home has been a normal home. If anyone needs inspiration read my story. I had a laptop thrown at me, 911 called on me, dragged into lawyers office, physically separated and much more.
I'm going to continue to work on me. EE is part of my plan . ACOA is part of my recovery and my rock Qi Gong.
Going out with friends tonight. Gal , give your spouse space and never give up. Ever
