Thank you AS and busting for your much appreciated support. Without you and the rest of my friends on here, I'd be lost and in very deep trouble. Your courage has given me strength so it's really YOU who are the strong and lovable people!
I don't want anyone to think I'm not pro marriage. I still think my H should have stayed with me and gone to MC to work through our problems. However, as AStander said, we all know how much we can take and we reach the point where we will no longer be punished. We need to feel valued and special to someone.
Afterall, we've done the work and can't be with someone who won't.
I'll keep you posted.
M:63 H:53 S:41, SS:28, SS:25, SD:23 M:15 T:16
Bomb:12/17/11, "I think we should go our separate ways." H moves to his mother's house, 4/1/12 12/21/12: H moves back home, piecing
I know you are pro marriage SS. I also understand where there can be a point (a different point for different sitchs) where we can be ready to find something else too.
We are with you SS. (((( ))))
TPS Me: 44 H: 42 M14 T17 S10 D7 10/10 H moves out after death of his father-same month 21/04/12 H is 'DONE' 04/05/12 OW/PA confirmed (rumors from 2010) July '14 H ends affair May '15 H moves back home
Hello old friends. I haven't posted in a while. H decided to move back home and try, with me, to work on our marriage. He's been back since Dec. 21.
It's not easy. I can't see us both evaluating the other, looking for things to make us want to stay together and also, things that make us want to stay apart. We're both sensitive to little nuances.
Some days I think it would have been better for us both to have just kept moving on and apart. I'm sure he probably feels that way, too. After a year apart, I've become a different person and I don't love him the way I used to. I hope we can get back the love we had for each other.
I think it's time for me to move over to piecing so I can gain from other's experience and knowledge. I'll keep popping in here and giving my .02 worth, of course!
Thank you all for your kindnesses, concern, and help. Whatever happens in my sitch, you have all helped me so, so much to be unafraid of my future!
M:63 H:53 S:41, SS:28, SS:25, SD:23 M:15 T:16
Bomb:12/17/11, "I think we should go our separate ways." H moves to his mother's house, 4/1/12 12/21/12: H moves back home, piecing
Wow, Ss....just caught up and I know that I have almost exactly the same fears. That I am a different person, so is H and if we were to start anew, then would it work?
Thank you, Ruby and Bug. I hope we all get what we need. It's just so hard to know sometimes. I wish there were a "life blueprint". But, at least, we're all better off than we were the first day we found this site.
Good luck to you both, too!
M:63 H:53 S:41, SS:28, SS:25, SD:23 M:15 T:16
Bomb:12/17/11, "I think we should go our separate ways." H moves to his mother's house, 4/1/12 12/21/12: H moves back home, piecing
SS, I'm so glad I found your new thread! I'm thrilled you're going through this stage with your H. Even if it doesn't work, you'll know you gave it EVERY opportunity. I hope for the best, whatever that is. And I'll be watching your sitch, because I can relate to so much of it. Thanks for sharing with us!
Hey CV, good to see you still about. Thank you for the kind words. I was reading another thread and the mention of a "new marriage", going forward, was made. I'm thinking that will have to be my (our, I hope) approach to our relationship.
I'm a little scared to leave this forum and go to piecing. I don't "know" those people over there as I do you and others here.
I hope they don't bite (as I did you)! ;-)
M:63 H:53 S:41, SS:28, SS:25, SD:23 M:15 T:16
Bomb:12/17/11, "I think we should go our separate ways." H moves to his mother's house, 4/1/12 12/21/12: H moves back home, piecing
