Divorcebusting.com Forums Open Forums For Newcomers Same Old Wagon Wheel Part 6

That's what you just did and didn't we say NOT to do that?

You don't need to be violently confronting her, just tell her that you have a right to know where she's going and that she will not be disrespecting you any longer. Wow deja vu. I felt we had this discussion MANY times before.

Doesn't by just doing that mr b makes me coming across as controlling the one trait she hates in me.

We've had this before but I'm trying to do 180s and sometimes in the moment I don't know if I'm being controlling or not

I get conflicting info here. 25 says one thing, drew says another and B tells me to get ballz

We're all telling you to get balls, just in different fashions.

Yes but one says to not confront her at all (25) b says stand up to her , you state five it no energy because true DB is taking focus off her . Let her go out who cares

My opinion? Your wife is in at least an EA, if not a full blown PA. Sorry, that's my take. It explains her sudden mood swings.

So on here, there are two schools of thought that I like to call Confront and Bo Beep. I like to think, along the lines of Mr. B, that you can still stand for you marriage, but you won't put up with an open marriage or outside influences on your family.

You are getting a lot of advice, some you might find conflicting. But only you are in your situation, and it's your life, and your decisions.

Drew I agree. Could even be PA too. She has gone out til 1 am twice and next day asked for divorce.

I definitely feel its EA and when that person engages her or stops pursuing her she gets mad at me. I mean joking with me at 4 pm and hates me and hiding phone 2 hours later

Also I have not proved the ea or pa and I'm not sure i can

Do I prove it first or confront her on OM that I know she currently txting . I feel she even went to call or see him last night.

I wish I could request txt data. She could

Feel like asking her if she might think I would be happy with cell reports if we requested them

"Doesn't by just doing that mr b makes me coming across as controlling the one trait she hates in me."

I don't know how many times I have to say this. All the WAS's accuse the LBS of being controlling. LISTEN VERY CAREFULLY...

You are not going to tell her that she can't talk on the phone or text other men, etc. because you have no right to tell someone else what they can or can't do.

YOU WILL tell her that you would like to know is she is contacting other men. Tell her that you feel disrespected by her actions and while you understand how she had felt distanced in the marriage, you will not tolerate her actions. You will not fund her habits and that she is more than welcome to get a job to take care of her phone bill, etc. but you will not spend YOUR money doing so.

No accusations. No telling her she can't or can do something. Just telling her straight what you will not tolerate.