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Congratulations on finishing up your mid-term. I'm sure you have happy it is finally completed.

If you are not sure about items that you are cleaning/clearing out of your home, box them up and store them somewhere until you are sure. Your home may sell quickly after the holidays and when you least expect it.

Don't over do it on lifting heavy boxes and furniture! I would hate to see you injured during the holidays.

Good idea, S. I'll go get some cardboard boxes from somewhere. I'll definitely take it slow and careful.

It's a rainy day today, so good day for writing. I did hand in my movie script (as far as it's done) - 50 + storyboards. My hand is aching - not used to writing anymore. I'd like to get another 20 done by next Tuesday. I also have to work on my Astronomy presentation. So, getting a life is a learning experience. Ha!

Hope y'all will have a good weekend wherever you are.

H is driving up in the pouring rain ... on his motorbike. I told him not to use the bike, but oh no, he knows better. He always thinks his is the best way to go, but sometimes, I do know of what I speak. Well, now I know he's coming here. It's going to be a weird Monday at the lawyer's office.

Well, he's going to be one sick individual if he's coming up on his motorbike in the pouring rain. You can't tell them anything...they always think they know best. He'll be crying the blues about the sniffles...wait and see.

Stay positive...it might not be weird at all. He may just sit there quietly and then tell you what he thinks later.

Enjoy your Sunday!

Absolutely. Not saying anything. That time he told me it's none of my business, he also said no-one cares about my opinion. So, not giving it, won't be saying "told you so." I still gave my thoughts on driving motorbikes at this time of the year, he said blah blah will have leather to protect me. I just shrugged, and waved goodbye. Again .... noooooooone of my business. His life.

We went to the lawyer today, but she only wanted to speak to me, and I understand why.

Why?

I thought you were going to mediation?

When I got divorced we had a mediator - but we each consulted our own outside lawyers too, to make sure we were negotiating a fair deal.

In the end, we thought we would just go to a lawyer. We have no issues regarding children, and everything else is divided. The lawyer just informed me of my rights, but it's pretty much what I knew.

PS Mediating costs money.

I've been thinking a lot about my appointment with divorce lawyer. I told her about my role in my marriage, and then when it showed H in a negative light, I would defend him. Finally, she said to me that I have to think about myself, that my rights are such and such, and if he wanted to get a lawyer, he is entitled to do that, but she represents me, and the law dictates what I will get. And, it's pointless giving it away because I feel sorry for him. I have to live too. When I filled out the form, there was a question of whether there was any hope for reconciliation. Weirdly, that was a part my H was completing and he left that uncrossed ... I crossed the NO box. I don't think there is hope for a reconciliation ... too much water under the bridge. Too little trying on his part. Too much time apart from each other, and I suspect, other women. I hope he finds a nice girlfriend, whose kind, and treats my kids well. I've heard too much of women who want the man to themselves. As for me, for now, I'm sooooo not interested in having another romantic R. I have other things to do. I am interested in meeting new people, and having fun, but no emotional ties.