Hi Bug, I felt it only appropriate to catch up on your sich since you have / do offer me great support. Based on what I've read. I take your advice more to heart, as I now know how strong you are. Your list is wonderful and a nice reminder for all of us. (((( Bug ))))
Really, there is light at the end of the tunnel and at times it is blinding. For those of you just starting the journey, know that.
I wanted to bring this quote over from a thread in Mid-life Crisis where I visit friends occasionally.
Try not to take S19 behavior personally. If you take it personally, you've given him you to wrestle with, instead of himself or your H. Not taking his behavior personally gives you the power and leadership which you have to have right now, for you and for them.
Although she was addressing a problem with a 19yo son, I think you could substitute any person for the S19.
Don't give away your power!
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss
Thank you Labug and I agree completely! It is SO empowering to not take things personally.
You are a rock for me Labug. Thank you ((((( )))))
TPS Me: 44 H: 42 M14 T17 S10 D7 10/10 H moves out after death of his father-same month 21/04/12 H is 'DONE' 04/05/12 OW/PA confirmed (rumors from 2010) July '14 H ends affair May '15 H moves back home
Me & H: 44 D7, D6, S3 Together: 20y, M: 17y EA: 11/13/10, Sep: 12/23/10 EA becomes PA: Spring 2011 H filed for D: 09/06/12 D Negotiating began 2/15 OW seemingly gone on 3/15 Still negotiating D
Happy birthday Bug and it has been a privilege to get to know you .
Love your list and add diet coke and popcorn for supper.....
You have given me great advice and I will continue to keep up on your switch in the hopes that I can offer a shoulder or some extra strength whenever it may be needed
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