He wrote back He is concerned for your health He cares about you, but is confused (normal) He loves your D. He misses you both He gives you credit for what you do around the house
May I add...he admitted his confusion openly? Not an easy thing to do...shows a lot of trust in you (I think) to handle his ambiguity.
Sage
Relax. Appreciate. Be calm. Laugh. Enjoy. Be secure. Be loving. Be loved. Don't personalize. Don't ASSume. Accept. Be grateful.
You know what your problem is? You haven't been chatting with me... cause you'd slap me upside the head if I asked the question you just asked... you'd say "stop with the stinkin thinkin" You'd say, all those nice words and you picked out a few to overanalyze and get ticked about? And have you forgotten the words "baby steps"? Cause I think there are a few here.
From your helicopter pilot: 1. He wrote you back. 2. He thanked you for your patience... in other words NOTICED how long you have been dealing with his weirdness. 3. He said he cared deeply for you. 4. He is thinking about your day (s). 5. He is appreciative of the work you do around the house (exactly how many men EVER say that???)
Quote: I can't really say how I feel about it all
Maybe he JUST meant "I don't really care which anniversary we celebrate cause to me we are married, and being a guy, I'm not good on dates anyway... and, you know, if we celebrate our anniversary in April, we'd have to explain all that stuff to everyone, and you know, KK, I'm totally not into talking to all the relatives and stuff... so whatever you want to do about the anniversary is great with me" but he did the guy thing and pared it down to a few clumsily chosen words that you chose to hyperanalyze into meaning "I don't know how I feel about you, our M, or anything else that has you or our M in it, around it or remotely related to it..." which, of course is not what he said at all, please refer back to the list of baby steps quoted by your helicopter pilot.
Sheesh, you are making my head spin as fast as the rotor (helicopter lingo... you like?)
I think those 7 kids are wearing you out, and I'm wondering if your brain is working down there on their level. That's what you get for staying away from the bb so long where people NEED you!
Anyway, the way Bob Barker would look at it would be "I have two awesome anniversaries to celebrate, and I'm going to celebrate them and send H wonderful, funny cards telling him how awesome he is, how wonderful life is at home and how much I need and appreciate him to provide some calmness and peace in Kitti's life..." or, how about a card talking about why you couldn't wait to get married, and does H remember how nuts you were about each other. With all of that sunshine out there, KK, put some positive thoughts in your day, okay??? You love the guy, show him, be excited about him, make him think you are missing him like crazy, make him long for you... The power is in YOU.
Well, this is your helicopter pilot signing off, over and out.
PS... sorry for the whacking... you know I love you.
Relax. Appreciate. Be calm. Laugh. Enjoy. Be secure. Be loving. Be loved. Don't personalize. Don't ASSume. Accept. Be grateful.
There's nothing I can add to the advice you have received. Personally, I think there were alot of positives.
Tell you what, since I have Bob Barker staying with me right now, you let me know when you're heading home and I'll put him on a plane. He's been doing wonders for me!!!
Miss you, girl!!! Pattie
When you can't make a decision because you are torn between your heart and your head, listen to the half with the brain.
About those 7 kids... did you have horrendous rain today? We did... Aren't you in Vacaville? There is an ice skating rink that might be fun to burn off some energy with the kids... I agree with Ellie, get them outdoors and run them around as much as possible...but when the weather is nasty like it has been, other choices are in order. Also, just walk around the mall a few times if it is icky out. Good luck! 7 is a lucky number,right?
Hope to talk to you soon,
SG
Survival Goddess "The most common way people give up their power is by thinking they don't have any." -Alice Walker
KK will be coming back soon! Hopefully within a week!
I wanted to bump up her thread to encourage her to post when she gets home!
Nice chatting to you KK last night! I for one have REALLY missed you! Hope this time away will help your M and you! And now being home soon will give you a vacation; compared to what you have been doing, LOL!
I'm waiting here with open arms! Can't wait to see you posting again!
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