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Driving home from Florida. Long trips can be a breeding ground for sad thoughts.

Yep, so listen to something uplifting.

I will. Thanks again for reading the thread. I hope you have a good Thanksgiving.

Last year before Thanksgiving I was feeling pretty sorry for myself. It was going to be the first time I didn't share the Thanksgiving meal with my sons and H. I had always made a big deal of holidays and the tradition of it. The meal, the good dishes, having every one say what they were grateful for...

Now my sons would be with H's family on that day.

So, with suggestions from people on here I decided we would create new traditions. So my S19 and I drove to the city where S 22 was at school and we spent Weds evening, Thurs morning together, ate foods other than typical turkey, etc and just enjoyed being together.

On Thurs, H picked them up and took them to his sisters house for their get-together. I drove the 2 hours home and I cried a bit in the car but enjoyed the scenery, was surprised at the lack of traffic and reflected on the good times we had experienced over the last 36 hours. And I was...grateful.

It's all in how you decide to look at it.

That is a great story Bug. Thanks for sharing.

Grateful.....something that has helped me along the way, is listening to KLove. Perhaps you know of the station. They are national and play contemporary Christian music. It is very encouraging.

One song that hit close to home, was Beautiful by MercyMe. For me, that happened in Jan. 2011. In a little over 2 weeks, we are gonna catch them in concert as a family.

God makes things beautiful in his time, not ours.

I just want to let you know i was thinking of you today Grateful.

I played Frisbee with my S this morning and had the best smile on my face i have felt in a long time, prior to my W coming to pick him up for the afternoon.

Now, i have to keep busy and stay out of my own head, which is doing better today than usual.

Ed

Thanks for the post. I have to say that I admire you. Your stand is amazing. In the past few months, I have wanted to quit so bad. What is your secret to it all? I know that you have concentrated on GAL, but what else have you done?

Don't admire me for what I have done. My life in nearly every other aspect is a complete shambles.

But, every time I felt like my energizer battery was running on empty, I just reminded myself of what was my original purpose and then I started from the top again, giving 100% of my efforts with optimism and keeping hope alive.

Obviously as it seems now, I have deluded myself for way too long, so my GAL is even harder to see with the challenge of having my son with me nearly 100% of the time and not having any spare funds to do some things with, so I am always seeking cheap and free things to do, which can even be going for a walk with my dog.

Ed

Bad day today. W brought the kids by to drop them off. She stayed and we talked for 30 minutes. She has finally reviewed the contested papers, and she isn't happy. THere was a mistake on there that had me the custodial parent that I honestly didn't want. I guess I just looked at the percentages and not the names next to them. That was my error. She read it this morning, so she stewed all day about it. She said that she was going to petition now to the standard every other weekend thing for me. I am scared of that. I explained the error, and I think she believed me, but who knows. Then, my oldest D cried and begged to go home to mommy. I took her. W said that she is fine now and just wanted her. She is tired of being bounced around. I did say that bouncing around will be apart of the next ten years. W said Yep.

I don't know what to do. Sandi2 always says to let go of the rope. It appears that W has cut the rope, so I have nothing to let go of. When she and I talked last night, there was no sadness or anger. Just unbelief. No emotion at all. The only time she showed anything is when she said that she is now going to have to spend a lot of money on D.