But see- you are still leaving the ball in HIS court to initiate sex, when he probably feels too bad about himself to do that. Sounds like an impasse to me - and who gets to break impasses? Why, DBers of course - it's our job, ma'am
What strikes me so odd about our various situations...many of us have walk aways who won't live with us but will have sex with us....others have spouses who will live under the same roof, but won't have sex...
Oh, man, I need a head examination... I saw the sex thing with Ellie and immediately went to yesterday's suggestion about a middle of the night BJ and figured I better run... 'cuz things have been very dry in Denver for over a year and a half....
Thanks for giving my dose of you today. I needed that!
I better get my head out of my butt and get swimming!
"There are only 2 ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle."
ellie, please please please, don't give up on me yet ok???
LOL
things have been so strained for over 3 years in our marriage (1 year affair where i knew something was going on but couldn't prove it - 2 years since then which includes 8 months since the bomb) that really i am seriously focusing in on our friendship
remember i told you that i have even tried initiating small touches (can't just JUMP into sex after this crap we have been thru) and for the longest while he would back away, he couldn't even stand my touch. now he is letting me carress him and such. i understand that things take time yes? so please don't think i am doing NOTHING in that department, i am doing little things and monitoring results
plus, there has been an extreme amount of growth in me over the last few months, and sorry to say i have focused most of my energies on that (in addition to trying to be a good wife regardless)
there are goals that i have to give him more of the hint that i am interesting in starting again, but quite frankly, i am not finished working on me yet, or at least to a point where i am comfortable enough, ya know?
oh ud, no problems there, yeah, it's a "dry" subject around these parts as well as you can tell!!! i understand wanted to "swim" pass that conversation
Thought I'd drop by and check out what is happening in your world. Ah, the sex thing. It's confusing... those living together and no sex and those not living together having sex. Go figure!
When you can't make a decision because you are torn between your heart and your head, listen to the half with the brain.
