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Going back to visit my parents this weekend, I think it will be good for me to get away. I still haven't told the majority of my family what is going on. My grandmother is in her mid-nineties and she adores my W. This might actually kill her, I don't know how to tell her but I can't keep dodging the subject.

Where is W? "Well Gran we've decided to separate and give each other some space. I love her and am giving it my best shot, but right now I am working on me, so whatever happens down the road I will be okay" . Mix with your own flavour and repeat

This is pretty much my stock response to "I heard you guys split up" to my bff's and family.

You and I and everyone else here will be okay. When? No timeline, but the fact that we are all willing to open up and look real hard at who we are and our responsibilities in our marriages speaks towards eventual acceptance and amazing growth.

I have faith in who I am becoming-you should too.

Everyone else gets "yes".....

Okay, bad edit...the everyone else gets "yes" applies to the question of "I heard you guys split up"...sheesh, nice skills in editing :P

Does anyone have any suggestions on OTC remedies for sleep. I feel like I haven't slept a full night since the bomb drop back in August. I am also taking some medicine for my anxiety that should make me sleepy but that doesn't seem to be the case. I know that this isn't a medical forum, but I figured most of you out there have probably suffered from insomnia at some point.

180 update: Sitting outside on a beautiful day watching college football. Having a much easier time talking to strangers and making eye contact, I think this anxiety think is starting to really get under control and that is a great feeling. Since the other night I have also been working on being as patient as possible. There was a couple times yesterday where I was starting to get impatient and I just told myself that it was ok, there is nothing important that is going on or somewhere I needed to be. So I just smiled and took a deep breath.

Benadryl works and is actually the active ingredient in most OTC sleep meds. Normally take 2. Be careful though depending on your anxiety med. You should google to check for interactions.

I am a fan of Advil pm. Yes, check interactions.

And what is the line from Nikita?

Just smile and say " I never did worry about the little things"

Has anyone tried that new Zzzquil. I guess that is basically just an antihisthamine.

Ok so I thought it would be good to come home, hang out with my friends and my parents. This is more depressing than being in my house. I went out to dinner with my parents and couldn't help but to look at the empty chair on the four top where my W would sit. Sleeping in a bed where we used to sleep together. This is not helping me to detach at all! So tomorrow morning, I'm hopping on a plane to Peru and never coming back. Id better learn Spanish I guess ;b

See you there ;-) lol I had weeks when I just wanted to run away. Seriously. I think that is normal.
Hang in there!

Oh and that line was also in the Bridget Fonda movie Point of No Return.