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Hey gunny, thanks for stopping in. Still been biking. Did a 50 miler over the weekend and a 34 miler last night. I finally broke down and bought some foot covers to keep my feet warm. I'm having to burn the headlights nowadays.

hey jb,
we are getting hammered here, 6 inches of snow on top of sagging power lines = no power again. with the time change and floods, snow, downed trees, etc, have had to get the running in on roads, rather than the canal towpath I usually frequent. Oh well, the show does go on, keep on leaning forward!

Hang in there, gunny! I'm praying for y'all there in Jersey and the East Coast.

I've been kind of up and down this week a little bit.

I took the day off on Tuesday because my S was off of school. I ended up taking my S to a movie. I had a good time as usual with my S. My W had him on Tuesday night and I went to dinner with 3 women from my Tuesday night church group. Got home and biked 34 miles under the cover of darkness.

I connected with my L yesterday. She asked me if I wanted her to follow up again with my W's L or go ahead and file for D ( Easy there chief!! ) Supposedly my W's L had sent over the paystub information upon the first request in September. My L connected with my my W's L and and there were emails flying this morning. So it looks like we're moving forward with the D process again. Fun, fun, fun!

Don't let your lawyer rush you into doing anything. We attorneys tend to do that when the billable hours slow down.

Sending good thoughts your way.

Hey jb -

If you think its heading for D, maybe you should consider filing. I don't know if my W's attorney was good, or if it's because my W is a woman, or if it was because she was the one that filed, but she clearly had an advantage with the courts and was in the driver's seat. They ran the show and I spent 9 months jumping through hoops and being ordered to do this and that.

It also may demonstrate to her that you are tired of the situation she's put you in and it may wake her up.

You have the most patience I have seen anyone have ever. Kudos to you, you've clearly grown and are a better man than most.

Thanks Denver! Nah, she works for me. I backed her down and stated my position. I'm holding my ground. I'm just doing what I have to do, and that's where it stops.

Hey NTX -

I think you were posting at the same time I was so I missed your post earlier.

We are currently working on a dissolution agreement. If my W is consistent about anything, she will say she wants a D. That being said, her actions are not always consistently indicating that. Frankly, I attribute some of that to disorganization and laziness on her part. She had grown accustomed to me doing a lot. If we can reach an agreement this way, and I really think we can if it comes to it, I'd rather go the dissolution route. However, if we are definitely heading toward a full blown divorce, I'll do what I have to do to protect myself and my S, full guns a-blazin'.

Hey jb - long time no hear, I hope you are doing well.

Hey NTX, thanks for checking in on me! Wow, I didn't realize it had been so long since I've last updated!

I am still hanging in there, and I do owe y'all a big update.

I have been extremely swamped with work and GAL'ing. I have recently started a couple new GAL'ing activities. I am going to be leading a group of 5th and 6th graders during service at my church and I'm also starting to coach my S's basketball team.