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oh.. one more thing.. i love having the DB on my feed on FB. while sometimes it brings a few tears, it usually gives me something to ponder..lol

I am so happy for you! Really! And it touches me that you come back and post to me, Clay.(moldable but with the ability to be strong, beautiful and functional-your name suits you)

I'm coming to terms with things, I'm a bit angry today and I think I need to be. I feel H lied to me for years to save his feelings but tomorrow's a new day. I will work through this.

Keep checking on me, I may need your positive energy in the next few weeks.

Again, I am so happy for you and your kids who get the benefit of new, improved Dad! They must be so happy.

Love ya, Buddy!

dangit bug.. u brought tears to my eyes..happy ones this time!!lol dont worry.. i check up on my friends.. my kids are good. thanks to the grace of god, the beauty of aa, and the wonderful friends i have here! i got positive energy to go around! my aura is on fire once again!

Well, as could be expected I've been up and down with my emotions over the last few days. Nothing wild and crazy just a bit, as we say in my world, labile.

I had my IC appt yesterday and I took my journal so she could get the full picture of the R convo. I really want to delve into it more with her, not the specifics so much as my communication skills. I need so much work in that area, not just in this R but with all my R. When a bit nervous I get brain freeze. I'm improving but could still use some work.

labug, you are such an inspiration to me. Keep up the hard work, bright days are ahead for you.

bug- im no expert as you well know. just a thought. why do you think so much about the right way and wrong way to do things? you have great communication skills here. maybe think about that. idk... try things your way. apply the DB stuff to yourself. if something you try isnt working change it up. find what works for you. R are so hard. different people, different points of view. i know the brain freeze feeling. i found i get that when i am trying to do what i think others want me to do. im no mind reader. once i started doing what i think is right, it has gone away considerably. the golden rule is what i basically operate on.

anyway, keep your head up. keep smiling. you are soooo smart and strong.

(((((BUG)))))

Clay

Make a rich chocolate cake with chocolate icing. And have a slice in memory of him with a tall glass of milk.

I don't think any of our parents ever wanted us to have a broken marriage. It's so d@mn painful.

Clay-you've given me something to think about. I am moving towards what makes me happy.

Subguy-accepting yourself is a key to this and then working on the parts that don't work for you. I still have work to do on accepting myself, just as I am, today.

vero-thanks.

Bug- I am curious, which part of your communication skills do you think you still need help with?

I'm way behind Bug but I think your talk came at the exact time that it was supposed to come and I'm glad you were able to find out where things are.

Xo