Well, Snodderly, he has grown sideburns which I HATE! Did I mention I hate the sideburns? He is really thinning on top and he brushes the hair over it. Sort of like a comb-over but from back to front instead of side to side. It almost looks like he is moussing it and teasing it. He did buy Rogaine but switched to the generic brand they sell at the drug store. Come to think of it that does come in a mousse can! LOL!
The past few days he even "chokes" down food I make. He asks permission to eat it sometimes other times he just helps himself. He seems all put out if I don't make him something to eat which I find funny and obnoxious all at the same time.
Oh yes did I mention the zebra underwear? Classic. This from the guy who complained if I bought anything for him besides blue, black or gray.
AT BD: WH 41, J 43; Bomb 2/5/2012 Two kids, one dog D Final 6/18/14 J marries OW 1/24/15 "No matter where you go, there you are"
So, he's got a Donald Trump hairdo? I'm sure that's quite interesting w/the sideburns. Maybe he'll think about getting hair plugs soon. LOL!
The choking down of food is quite the norm for mlcers. It's the guilt eating them up and they don't know how to handle themselves around us. Yep, typical mlc behavior with helping himself at other times too. Maybe it's time you introduce him to a cookbook. After all, he's got to learn how to cook if he's going to run away in the future.
Just be thankful that he's not gone out and purchased thongs!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
His idea of cooking is driving to Fast food places or ordering pizza. Hence one of my concerns of him taking the kids. I dont eat a lot and if I didn't have kids I would be content with a bowl of cereal or a tuna sandwich for dinner. He won't cook. I am impressed he was able to make himself some ham sandwiches tonight although he did ask permission to use the ham first! Lol!
The other day at D's soccer game I was standing behind H who was crouching down by D and I was directly in line of his "thinning" spot. I found it so funny and so ridiculous I had to take a picture of it. That was mean, I know, but it was between me and God. Made me feel better at the time.
Oh and another thing, he doesnt have to learn to cook because he bragged to his sister that OW loves to cook and loves food. Is that why H has lost roughly 20 lbs? Because she's such a good cook? Hmmm...S and I tried some cake he brought home from her place and I thought it was nasty. S said he didn't like it either and H didn't eat any of it so I just threw it away and kept the tupperware! Lol!
AT BD: WH 41, J 43; Bomb 2/5/2012 Two kids, one dog D Final 6/18/14 J marries OW 1/24/15 "No matter where you go, there you are"
Well his got his cake (maker) too bad he can't eat it too. (cause its gross.) LMAO Your sounding a lot stronger. The hair do sounds too funny.
M: 29, H: 31 D: 9 S: 8 T: 13 Y M: 9 Y ILYBIDKIILWY 12/09/2012 ~~~~ Worrying does not empty tomorrow of its troubles. ~~~ it Emptys today of its strengths
Wishing, They lose the weight because they don't eat. Their digestive system is out of whack because of guilt and all of the junk food and drinking many of them do. Once the replay settles down and he feels more comfortable in his own skin, he'll begin picking up weight. In fact, many go from starving marvins to humpty dumptys later on.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Thanks again Snodderly. H used to complain Joe his stomach was upset and he couldn't eat. In fact a few nights ago I was giving D a bath and he came barging into the bathroom scrambling through the drawers. I asked if he was looking for something and he said he needed the thermometer. I gave it to him and asked are you not feeling well? And of course he felt feverish and sick tomhis stomach and light headed. He took his temp and it was normal. I asked if he wanted any medicine. Oh no...he says. I'll muster through the whole time taking his temp over and over trying to see if it was going up higher.
H's nephew is having a wedding reception this weekend and Joe called his sister to see if he could bring OW and "the kids". To which his sister said I thought you were court ordered to keep your kids away from your girlfriend? H says oh I meant "her kids" not my kids. I guess his sister gave him an earful about how can he put his girlfriend and her kids in front of his own? H's excuse was oh the kids are busy this weekend. His sister asked why he couldn't just bring the kids without the girlfriend? He changed the subject.
I really do not like this guy and if H would have been like this when we were dating I would never have married him. His sister asked why he would want to shove this woman on the family not knowing if this was even gonna work out? H's response? It is going to last and it will work out. I guess he needs to say that to save face or otherwise he looks like he is making a mistake. But I do have to admit that stings a bit. I am working though it. It's not real. I need to keep reminding myself.
I just don't know what was ever real now. I look back and wonder what was reality and what was a show? I guess it's futile to concentrate on the past but I cannot help but wonder sometimes.
AT BD: WH 41, J 43; Bomb 2/5/2012 Two kids, one dog D Final 6/18/14 J marries OW 1/24/15 "No matter where you go, there you are"
It's not real. It's a teenage fantasy. An escape. Remember in high school how you could fall in and outta love so quickly? I was always in love with the fantasy, the romance of it all--when I was sixteen. There you have it. In love with the idea of being in love. The ultimate escape from reality. When you're in your mid-forties, however, reality has a way of biting you in the A$$.
And, sooner or later it will all come crashing down. What are they thinking???? Bizarre. I'm glad his sister confronted him on his weirdo behavior. It's nice when others can see through the facade. My H was able to convince everyone for months that I was mentally ill and a slacker. The truth bubbled to the surface like it always does. They ain't lookin at him with such fondness anymore. In fact, everyone is keeping their distance.
Avoiding reality, especially when you have kids and grown up obligations has its consequences.
Hang in there. Heather
"You know, it's times like these when I realize what a superhero I am." Tony Stark/Iron Man
“Focus on what you can do, then do it with all your heart.” Lois Wilson
I know, right? I don't know who he is trying to be but this shell of a man he is now is not attractive to me whatsoever. H is the walking definition of a midlife crisis! And you are right. Everyone has seen through the facade sooner or later. It amazes me how all the predictions of H have been spot on.
What else irritates me is that I waited until I was almost 30 before I married. I waited because I wanted the cream of the crop. Now all I got is the curds.
AT BD: WH 41, J 43; Bomb 2/5/2012 Two kids, one dog D Final 6/18/14 J marries OW 1/24/15 "No matter where you go, there you are"
Oh and yes H told me around bomb drop that he looks around and sees all these couples that are so in love and crazy about each other and he is jealous of that and that's what he wants. I just looked at him and said I don't know ANY couples that are like that. None that I hang out with anyway. I think he has been watching too much Lifetime movie network.
AT BD: WH 41, J 43; Bomb 2/5/2012 Two kids, one dog D Final 6/18/14 J marries OW 1/24/15 "No matter where you go, there you are"
