Well he asked me to take it easy on the money expenditures since we had to pay almost $500 to "that dam appraiser" (H's exact words). He told me he was not going to tell me not to go (smart move) but please don't go crazy with the money (like I ever do). That's when he said he wanted to talk to me about the money but didn't want to get into more conflict with me. He is tired of me not letting him have his way I am sure.
He was also trying to get me to feel sorry for him by telling me his childhood home was sold. I validated by telling him yes, there are strong emotions attached and it must be difficult but left it at that. I will not feed into it any more. I can't. I need to save my strength.
I emailed him a picture of D with her face painted. No response. But then again, what is there for him to say?
AT BD: WH 41, J 43; Bomb 2/5/2012 Two kids, one dog D Final 6/18/14 J marries OW 1/24/15 "No matter where you go, there you are"
wishing, You've got his number! He definitely wanted you to feel sorry for him because his childhood was sold. Poor man. You did well in validating him.
He's asking you not to go crazy w/money? I'm sure he's not been the best person to handle funds during this time. He may very well be projecting on to you what he's doing himself. Oh, yeah, he's not happy that you aren't allowing him to have his way...you are his road block to happiness.
I'm glad you are starting to see the light. The most important thing is to take care of you and your children.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
So H got my lawyer's letter and is he mad? Boy is he ever!! He demanded we discuss thing after the kids go to bed. I said no, I am tired. Well, when are we going to discuss it? Idk H. I don't really want to talk to you. So he starts an argument in front of the kids. Brings up mediation and placement and all that jazz in front of the kids. I told him this was inappropriate and not the time or place. He said well when? I said I didn't know. He was mad. Mad mad mad!! And then to "tick me off" he started acting like super dad and playing soccer in the living room with the kids. I just walked upstairs, took a long hot shower, relaxed, had "me" time and let him do his thing with the kids. That made him even madder. So he took D upstairs to get her ready for bed which he NEVER does. In the process he ignored S who has to get up early for a soccer double header tomorrow morning so I got him ready for bed.
So much for being a great dad. 11:00 and D (who is 5) is still awake. I said she has dance class in the morning and needs to go to bed. How can anyone be so clueless?!?!? I know. He's nothing but a big teenager himself!!
AT BD: WH 41, J 43; Bomb 2/5/2012 Two kids, one dog D Final 6/18/14 J marries OW 1/24/15 "No matter where you go, there you are"
wishing, I'm very proud of you that you were able to walk away and not get into a discussion w/him. We both knew he was going to be furious when he got the information, but hey...be careful what you ask for. The cold, cruel reality will set in now, especially when it involves his wallet.
I hope you can enjoy your weekend. Just remember, he's a rebelling teenager.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
wishing, Your counselor has described the divorce process to a "T" w/the mlcer...it is one huge, drawn-out temper tantrum. You'll just have to stick to your guns and not given in if it means that you and your children will not receive the benefits that you should have.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
So he makes a huge deal about taking the kids to the pumpkin farm today and then makes a huge production about carving them. And then just as I suspected he got his "12 hours of dad-ness" in and took off for OW's place. He tells me he will be back by 4:00 the next day to take them trick or treating. If he isn't here by 5:00 I am taking them myself. We shall see if he is going to stick to his word. I am not holding my breath.
AT BD: WH 41, J 43; Bomb 2/5/2012 Two kids, one dog D Final 6/18/14 J marries OW 1/24/15 "No matter where you go, there you are"
wishing, He's a "Disney Dad" right now. He wants to look like Mr. Wonderful and that's why he made such a big deal of going to the pumpkin farm and carving the pumpkins.
If he's not there by 4:15 and you are ready to take the children trick or treating...go. Do not wait for him. He's the one that told you 4:00. Don't waffle or slide on the time. He needs to learn that when he states a time, he needs to be prompt and no one is going to wait around for him.
Have fun this evening!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Isn't it something to watch? My H historically has NOT been one to say ILY. Especially to me the last few years, but even to our kids. Then the bomb. Then, next day, coming in the door from work its "I love you S19" "I love you D18".... while I sit in the same room, right next to these newly loved children... and without a glance at me he walks off.
The kids look at me with "What's wrong with Dad" on their faces...
Crazy stuff Wish.
Me 46 H 56 M 22 yrs S22, D20, Twin Ss18
You teach people how to treat you by what you allow. What you stop. And what you reinforce. ~~~~~~~ A lack of boundaries invites a lack of respect.
What I find hilarious is he has had plenty of weekends to carve pumpkins and visit the pumpkin farm with the kids. But he makes a dog and pony show out of it to "get it done" so he could say he took them. It's all about keeping up appearances with him. He even asked me if I was taking S to the store to get a costume because apparently his "dad" clock told him time was up.
He is so superficial. My son is starting to see through it. D is too young and just wants her daddy so anytime for her is better than nothing. It makes me so sad.
Oh well concentrating on me and the kids. I will definitely be back here later today! Lol!
AT BD: WH 41, J 43; Bomb 2/5/2012 Two kids, one dog D Final 6/18/14 J marries OW 1/24/15 "No matter where you go, there you are"
