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I know and the thing is I still feel about 34! That's a good thing. I had my first son the year I turned 33, those were very good years.

Thanks for all the warm fuzzies, everyone.

hi labug, wanted to give you a hug and see how you're doing. Anniversaries are weird but I'm glad you see the good that came from your marriage. ((()))

Thanks, everyone!

Went to a movie yesterday-Trouble With the Curve, pretty formulaic and seemed very long, but a good diversion for a couple of hours.

Came home and had dinner of chile colorado burritos. I'd had the chile cooking in the crock-pot, it was so good and there's some left over.

Watched some TV, read some, went to bed and slept 8 hours! Can't remember when I last slept 8 hours.

So let's see how today rolls out in front of me.

Hey labug, thanks for keeping up on me and posting on my sitch.

I was just mowing our lawn (3 acres cleared) and a revolutionary thought came to me! If H & I are D, I don't have to keep that much cleared! I can reduce the lawn to a manageable size.

I also thought about the amount of work I need to do on the place whether I sell it next year or stay here. H has talked feebly a coupla times about helping out, but so far nothing. I finally got it in my head I need to take ownership of the place -- after all, shortly it's going in my name.

So...brings me to my question. Did I remember a while ago you said you operated a chainsaw? Is it difficult and how did you learn to do it?

Hi labug, glad to hear you had a nice day and an 8 hour sleep! nice one!

I hope you have a good day today.

thinking of you ((( )))

Bug,

Just caught up after the weekend and just wanted to send you a hug.

You are an admirable human being and I feel honored to share this journey with you.

(((Labug)))

PS - My mouth literally watered when I read about the chile colorado.

Thanks, I feel the same about you and all the women here who have to take this on with small children.

But here's what I want to say. I wish you could all feel as I do RIGHT NOW! There is a calm and peacefulness that I've never experienced before in my life. I can attribute this feeling to many of the actions I've taken but I know it was my willingness to dig deep and work on myself created an environment for me to grow.

On Sat, the anniversary date, I was putting dishes away and got sad. Some things we've had since we got married, like 2 soup mugs his cousin gave us (used to be 4). Looking at these my mind started to wander. Then the thought came to my mind, "You feel sad, it's OK to feel sad. These are feelings and they will drift off. Tomorrow you will feel totally different." And I did.

I didn't beat myself up for feeling sad, I didn't push the feeling aside, I didn't fall into a sobbing mass on the floor or close myself in my room for the rest of the day.

I just continued to put dishes away...and felt a little sad.

This didn't come about without work but I believe time is a key ingredient. Use your time wisely. (As Cadet says: You've been given the gift of time.)

Be someone you can be proud of. In a year from now, things will be very different for all of you. I think you have the power to decide what that difference is.

And now for something completely different...

I joined p!nterest this weekend...my life as I knew it is over.

I now have projects to last a lifetime.

That's awesome!! I'm glad you are finally in that place! Enjoy.

Holy cow and wow Busgy. You mispelled a couple of words in your post and didn't care Now I know you have grown. I understand where you are at. It takes time to get there but eventually you do. Keep at it I don't know if the feeling of sadness will ever go away but it will be less every day. Keep living a good life luvs ya!!!