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Grateful

If that is what you want, then I am happy for you. Now do me a favor and do NOT have any R talks with her. Let your ACTIONS show her the man that you are becoming.

Keep focusing on you. Keep GALing.

Do you have a date yet for the court stuff?

We settled the initial hearing out of court. My L is preparing the answer to her filing. That is due this week. I assure you that I will not talk about R with her. I am very nervous.

I fear that living in the basement may make my sitch worse. Sure, I would have a chance to show her my changes, but at the same time, she now has a built in babysitter, the kids will be there more often, etc. She has also said numerous times that this would only be temporary - not a perm solution.

The basement situation is now out. W said isn't a good idea. I actually agree with this. It was a shot at showing her the new me, but I can do it in other ways. I had to answer the D paperwork today, so today was tough. I am looking forward to the next few days with my D's.

Did she say why it wasn't a good idea? I hope today isn't too bad after the D paperwork...I bet it's tough!

Yes, she said it wasn't a good idea. It is tough tonight after signing those papers.

Found out today that she wants to give the dog away since I wouldn't be able to afford the deposit and monthly upkeep. W is also making Thanksgiving plans and Christmas plans with the kids. Another tough night for me.

What about YOUR plans with the kids?

Hi Grateful,

I am pretty new on the boards, but have been reading and wanted to give my support. I am also getting ready to do the legal stuff but my H and I are heading to court a week from Monday. I'm a nervous wreck also:( Ours is for our legal separation.

You mentioned the approaching holidays and that is going to be tough for me also. I want to keep my kids over both the upcoming holidays, but I also know its important they see H too:( I am not willing to do it jointly, as it will be too uncomfortable right now. I am trying to put my anger and hurt with him aside and realize that they need to see him , but its so easy to want to keep them away since I feel that he was the one who walked out. UGGG...

I agree with bond that you need to make plans also for your kids.
Anyway, good luck to you. I will continue to read your posts. i also feel for you about your dog. I have 2 and they are part of my family.

I hope your today was better than yesterday.

Hi Grateful, I'm sorry you might lose the dog. I hope your night isn't too bad after hearing from us supporting you on here. I know it's only words, but I hope it helps a little. I thought about holidays as well, and it makes me sad, so I try not to think about those. I hope you will figure out some plans of what you want!!