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Originally Posted By: ericmsant2
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Thanks to all of you !!!

I am calling my wife tonight at 8:30ish please keep me in your prayers today

God Bless you all

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I am calling my wife tonight at 8:30ish please keep me in your prayers today

What for and how did it go?


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I am calling my wife tonight at 8:30ish please keep me in your prayers today

What for and how did it go?


Decided NOT to call my wife and NOT to go to the wedding !! I don't need to grovel -- or beg

Why the hell do I need to beg for -- obviously no one wants me there -- I can see pics of my son - I mean I wish I could see him but I don't need to be in a room full of people who don't want me there.


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How do you know that the rest of the family doesn't want you there?

You do realize that when an mlcer is angry and doesn't get their way that they will use threats? If you are not going to go, you may want to still call and let them know you aren't attending. Call the bride or groom, or a family member (not your wife) and advise them you aren't attending. I don't know if you had to rsvp, but they need to know.

I had a similiar situation occur and my xh did the same thing and you know what? I went and everyone appeared happy that I attended the wedding and reception. My xh never mentioned to them that he had threatened me. They didn't have a clue about his behavior. So, to be fair to the rest of the parties involved, don't "assume" that they don't want you there.

Just my two cents.


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How do you know that the rest of the family doesn't want you there?

You do realize that when an mlcer is angry and doesn't get their way that they will use threats? If you are not going to go, you may want to still call and let them know you aren't attending. Call the bride or groom, or a family member (not your wife) and advise them you aren't attending. I don't know if you had to rsvp, but they need to know.

I had a similiar situation occur and my xh did the same thing and you know what? I went and everyone appeared happy that I attended the wedding and reception. My xh never mentioned to them that he had threatened me. They didn't have a clue about his behavior. So, to be fair to the rest of the parties involved, don't "assume" that they don't want you there.

Just my two cents.


I wasn't invited Snod - I asked my wife if I could come to the church to see Mickey dressed up she said yes I bought the ticket the next day she told me I don't think you should come everyone is uncomfortable but since you bought your ticket already you can come -

then we had fight Friday you can read the thread about the story ^^^


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Okay, she contradicted herself in the conversation, first she says it's okay, then she tells you that everyone would be uncomfortable about it, but then because you bought the ticket, you can still come.

The the fight set her rage in anger and she doesn't want you there.

Well, if you are absolutely certain you weren't invited, then fly down there and enjoy the beach...you don't want to lose your money on this deal.


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I wasn't the invite was addressed to Mrs. XXXXX and my sons name


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BTW it is my wifes sister sooo


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Well, since the invitation was addressed to the wife and son, I wouldn't go. I don't think you can get a refund on the ticket, but the rental car could be cancelled out. Have you thought about just going down and enjoying the beach or can you exchange the ticket?


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