I guess that there really is no answer. I'm just bummed that she wouldn't come to my show I guess... On the one hand that is bad but it just opened up questions in me... It's seems like if she was in a healthy place and was past our relationship she wouldn't feel the need to put up a wall still. But maybe I'm mind reading too much.
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You've been divorced for over 1-1/2 years and even after that much time she won't have lunch with you even though you're in the same building. And she won't go to your show even though it would be completely benign if she did. As much as I admire your tenacity in trying to reconcile, it may be time for you to consider dropping the rope. I'm not saying there will never be a chance for reconciliation because I've read stories where people have been divorced for years and then against all odds got back together. But I am saying that your X is clearly indicating to you that she has zero interest in you right now. So moving on may be the healthiest thing for you to do.
You've been divorced for over 1-1/2 years and even after that much time she won't have lunch with you even though you're in the same building. And she won't go to your show even though it would be completely benign if she did. As much as I admire your tenacity in trying to reconcile, it may be time for you to consider dropping the rope. I'm not saying there will never be a chance for reconciliation because I've read stories where people have been divorced for years and then against all odds got back together. But I am saying that your X is clearly indicating to you that she has zero interest in you right now. So moving on may be the healthiest thing for you to do.
What makes you think she has any interest in ANYONE?
YES DROP THE ROPE.
Does than mean running out and marrying someone else? - NO
But it means to stop pursuing and moving forward.
The bolded part above is your best chance scenario.
yeah, i think that she can't reconcile the idea that i am worthy of being her friend with the fact that she divorced me for a "reason". it makes her confront the irrational move that she made and she would rather hide from anything that presents her with that fact. i'm not pursuing at all... just wish that i had some way to have some exposure to her. like i said originally, db says that for couples with kids the hand off can be a perfect opportunity to re-brand yourself in your ex's mind. i don't have that exposure but i guess there is nothing that i can do about that. i'll just be nice to her when i'm around and keep living my life... never know where the road goes
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yeah, i think that she can't reconcile the idea that i am worthy of being her friend with the fact that she divorced me for a "reason". it makes her confront the irrational move that she made and she would rather hide from anything that presents her with that fact. i'm not pursuing at all... just wish that i had some way to have some exposure to her. like i said originally, db says that for couples with kids the hand off can be a perfect opportunity to re-brand yourself in your ex's mind. i don't have that exposure but i guess there is nothing that i can do about that. i'll just be nice to her when i'm around and keep living my life... never know where the road goes
THAT ^^ is all that you can do. Nice seeing you around!
M 43 X 38 T 13 W moves out of home 11/2010 Roller coaster from hell 2/2011-5/2012 I request divorce 5/2012 W moves home 6/2012 Good time 7/2012 - 1/2015 I leave 3/2016 process of divorce
