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"I forgave her too easily, almost as if I was saying to her (do what you want - just don't leave me)"

That's not what forgiveness is.

Forgiveness is somthing that is given without expecting something in return. If you truly forgave your W, then you leave it at that. It's not a sign of weakness. Giving forgiveness without expecting change or for the person to feel remorse or apologetic is the strongest and most unselfish thing you can give to someone.

Breakdown,
Considering the circumstances and what not, I just want to say that I'm happy for you. Best of luck and keep us posted on your new beginnings!

Breakdown,
Considering the circumstances and what not, I just want to say that I'm happy for you. Best of luck and keep us posted on your new beginnings!

Thanks Afa, I will keep you posted

Bond we'll just have to agree to disagree on this one.

You're more than entitled to your opinion on forgiveness. I know the context in which it was intended and I'll just leave it at that thanks.

Bill

Seeing the positive way you are taking all of this mate, you are ready for it and are doing what's right for you. I'm glad you're in a better place. Cheers!!

I agree with you Bill. Forgiveness is a gift we give ourselves.

4.5m this morning with new shoes.

Thanks Arsene

I really am in a much better place right now.

Sure, I have regrets about what has happened and feel a genuine loss for the end of my M with my W. I mean we've been together since the year 2000, that's a long time and we have had some really great times along the way.

The key to it for me, was truly accepting what was happening in my sitch for what it was.

I'm now looking forward to a fresh start, genuine independence, a new career and having some fun.

Life is here for living my friend, we need to make the most of it & enjoy the ride while we can

Bill

Thanks Chatter

I want to try and get a run before the weekend, but having said that, tomorrow in the school I am in we are having a game of football (soccer) in P.E. so I'll be getting a good run out tomorrow

I think I need to go to one of the specialist running shops in town for a new pair of shoes. The type of shop that puts you on a treadmill, studies the way that you run & selects the best type of shoe for your feet, support and running style.

You must be feeling a bit better getting 4.5 miles in today, so I'm glad you're back hitting that pavement.

Bill

How is the interaction between you two after your ultimatum?

Hi Bond

It's very business like if I'm honest. I'm making an effort to be civil and polite, making small talk, but my W seems quite distant.

So if I get the vibe that she's being that way I just back off and give her space.

Pretty much what I expected.