Re-read my post above. I specifically said that you HAVE gotten better -- just not all the way there yet.
So . . . no wallowing. Don't MAKE me come there and kick some feel-sorry snot outta ya.
Starsky
I know Starsky. Its that low PMA thing Ive had going on all week. I think I finally hit bottom so, nowhere to go up again!! I can do this. I can be the strong, confident person I was. Happy Friday!
What part of IL are you in? Im in the Rockford area..
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LOL, I'm trying to do a better job at showing my softer side, what can I say. People are usually shocked to find out that IRL I'm actually a classic pleaser/rescuer/"Mr. Nice Guy" than I am a hardass.
Re-read my post above. I specifically said that you HAVE gotten better -- just not all the way there yet.
So . . . no wallowing. Don't MAKE me come there and kick some feel-sorry snot outta ya.
Starsky
Originally from Arlington Heights, but I'm in Florida now, MrsD. I need to change that in my profile. I know Starsky. Its that low PMA thing Ive had going on all week. I think I finally hit bottom so, nowhere to go up again!! I can do this. I can be the strong, confident person I was. Happy Friday!
What part of IL are you in? Im in the Rockford area..
LOL, I'm trying to do a better job at showing my softer side, what can I say. People are usually shocked to find out that IRL I'm actually a classic pleaser/rescuer/"Mr. Nice Guy" than I am a hardass.
OMG...That is so me!!
Of course, how do you think all of us poor bastards FOUND ourselves here, to begin with???
Well, I guess the good thing about hiding behind the computer and talking on here is that no one else cept you guys and my closest friends know that Im not doing any better with this all. As far as he is concerned, he knows none the better. And it shouldnt matter what he knows or thinks anyway, right? I guess I really am no closer to detaching as I was the day I logged on here.
I dont know how this will ever get any easier. It seems like I do so well for a few days, then I have a bad one. A really bad one.
Thanks again Starsky. I need to detach better. NC I have down.
We all did that MrsD. But with each day, we got better, missed our loved one less, and learned how to fully let go. It's a process...one we are trying to help you get through. The longer you resist (the process), the longer you torment yourself. But we are here for you now and will continue to be.
LOL, I'm trying to do a better job at showing my softer side, what can I say. People are usually shocked to find out that IRL I'm actually a classic pleaser/rescuer/"Mr. Nice Guy" than I am a hardass.
OMG...That is so me!!
Of course, how do you think all of us poor bastards FOUND ourselves here, to begin with???
A woman would prefer an abrasive "hard ass" to a man who wants to please her?
I can do this. I can be the strong, confident person I was.
In all seriousness, MrsD, I honestly believe you can, too. There is an earnestness about you -- a strength and tenacity behind the desperate fear (only when it relates to your ex-H) -- that is evident. And you have a healthy level of introspection, which I have always felt was a necessary trait found in all successful DB'ers (too much of this leads to "navel-gazing," however . . . "introspection" = "GOOD"; "navel-gazing" = "BAD").
Add to that your strong faith, and I think you have a very solid foundation of emotional strengths on which to build, I really do.
And as you can probably tell my now, I'm NOT the type to blow smoke up your butt if I didn't think that were true!!!
I can do this. I can be the strong, confident person I was. Happy Friday! 
