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Also got in watching reds tie sky blues

skrtel backpass was awesome... ugghhh

Hey not bad that Manchester Orchestra, might listen to a few more of their tunes later

I reckon you might have liked my friends band - they were signed to parlaphone in the mid nineties up to about 2001

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FqFQI0Y5ih4&feature=youtube_gdata_player

Yeah it wasn't the best pass by Skrtel, he's all right foot and since our defenders are no longer able to hoof the ball, he's bound to make the odd mistake.

I'll forgive him though, he was outstanding last season and his header cancelled his mistake out anyway. Good result and I was happy with how we played, we've got the 2nd leg Europa league qualifier against Hearts tonight, which is on ESPN over here.

Had an awesome day today - my w took the kids to the park and my little girl has finally learned how to ride her bike!! She sent me a video and caught up in the excitement I asked her to ask if my daughter wanted me to meet her at the park on my bike so we could ride together. She said yes and we all had a great time at the park.

I'm off out tonight to meet up with a few of my friends and to watch one of them play live later on. When I was leaving the house my W said that my hair looked nice.

I can't remember the last compliment I got from her!!

Not reading anything into it other than enjoying it for what it was a compliment.

Just take it for what it is right now, a compliment. Be careful not to read into anything too much. With that said, I definitely agree that it is a positive thing.

What he said


Actions speak louder than words.


7 miles this morning.... too hot.... Hit the wall

Thanks Denver / Chatterbug

Yeah I'm not reading too much into it, other than it was nice to get a compliment.

Had a really good time last night, feeling it this morning only had 8 pints, but they were a mix of porters, real ales - so i'm feeling the dehydration - 2 pints of water, a coffee and a glass of coke and i'm still thirsty!! No headache though

7 miles is good enough, I did a good bike ride yesterday, gonna do 7 miles tomorrow morning.

Time for another coffee

Hey Bill,

Finally caught up on your thread. What a journey mate! It looks like you are taking control over your life and the changes in you are having an effect. Keep up the good work. don't pick up that rope.

Just a comment I have about your Ws unwillingness to drop OM her dance partner. My W is a singer/musician and a few years ago, when I discovered EA (with the drummer of her band), I put my foot down and told her that if she wanted us to stay together she had to quit the band. She fought it like crazy, often saying that she was fine with us splitting up, and it took so much for me to convince her to quit the band. She eventually did and broke off all contact with OM (We left the country). I thought we were out of the wood but the second we got back in this country (over a year later), VLAM!! BD and the she's back with OM although at BD she said that she could never be with any man other than me.

Back in those days, she would explain that the band was the best around and that OM was the best drummer and all of that but I now believe that there was a strong emotional attachment between them (which one might call love) and that the fact that it remained unexplored back then, drove her back to see what she had missed. Now she's caught in it, and I think she believes she's gone too far to come back.

I see a bit of this in your W. JMO

Bill crumbs are crumbs... Just remember actions speak louder than words. You will know when it is real.

ANd that is when she stops the dancing. And actively attempts to mend the marriage.

Anything less falls short of the goal.

Hi Arsene

Thanks for stopping by and comparing sitch's. Yeah my W has given me a lot of lame excuses about why she won't quit the dance class or stop dancing with the OM, similar to your W and the band.

I'll have to read your thread about what happened when you got her to choose you over the band to where you guys are now, before I can really comment on that, but i'm guessing it wasn't a straight me or him ultimatum?

Right now I know exactly where I am in my sitch, I'm happy with how I'm feeling now, I'm still working on me, but it really is just for me.

Emotionally I feel ready to give my W an ultimatum and move forward with my life whether it's with my W or not, but physically and financially I can't really back that up until my teacher training is over and I get my 1st job.

That's a year away and judging by this year a lot can happen in that amount of time.

Things might get better organically, my W could file, literally anything could happen and it wouldn't surprise me.

All I know is that things change one way or another, but nothing can be forced, we just learn as we go and if we can't save our Marraige, we save ourselves by using these experiences to make sure we don't make the same mistakes again in our R's.

So your W still snubs you about the OM? What other boundaries have you placed on her? You can't have boundaries without consequences. She's walked over and spit on your boundaries. What were you prepared to do?