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DG, it sounds like you are in a really good place, and I'm glad to hear it. You have come so far from when you first showed up here. All the best.

JB

It is good to hear you in a good place. I can remember when I first started reading hear, I would skip posts like yours. I didn't want to hear about people feeling better about getting D.

Now I relish stories like this, that we can love, hurt, heal, survive and triumph.

Good luck to you.

DG, wow you are doing so great. I am so proud of you. How do I do it???

I am really impressed. Enjoy the sunshine:)

Hey guys,

Just checking in to see how everyone is doing and to update my sitch a little bit.

Really, not too much has changed, H and I are still in the process of D, and do not have contact. He did send me an email earlier in the week wishing me a HB which I thought was odd. I have given up trying to figure out what goes through his head.

My S16 actually saw him and his "friend" in town today, and he didn't even acknowledge my S. That infuriates me.
I guess I shouldn't be surprised, he's been ignoring both boys for over a year now, but I never thought he would pretend that they don't exist if they saw one another on the street. My S seemed ok with it, and I am thankful that my younger S wasn't along because I know he would have been crushed.

I have been trying to tell myself every day that I am better off without my H. It was my way of coping at the time, but now I truly do believe it. He actually did me a very big favor by leaving.
I don't want to waste my time on a man who can't even act like an adult,

I am doing well, and I am very happy with the way life is going right now. I never, ever thought I would be in this place, but I am and I'm thankful for everyone who has supported me along the way.

DG,
I'm glad things are going well.

It's awesome that you are able to keep yourself off the rollercoaster when your H does something unexpected in a positive way.

Honestly - it's the one part of this journey I continue to struggle with. It's the last little bit that I need to detach from.

Any fun summer plans this year with your boys?

Hi DG, I just added your quote about unpacking baggage to my list of great quotes. Love it!

Thank you!!

I am glad you like the quote. It has helped me tremendously.

Small update for everyone.....

My divorce hearing is set for August 27th. I thought I had made peace with all of this, knowing that I did everything I could to save our marriage, but it still hurts, a lot. We've had no contact what so ever, and as hard as I try to move on, it is still very, very hard.

{{{{{~¤DG¤~}}}}}

Keep taking care of yourself. It's hard to forgive ourselves (and the other) and accept what is when there's no feedback.

You are strong and things will get better.

(((DG)))

I think we can make peace with our situation and still feel the hurt and pain of it all.

Hearts will heal at their own pace in their own way.

I'm not sure if it is easier or hardier that neither one of us speak/see our spouses.. .

However I do know that seeing my w for the first time in 8 months has added extra stress to signing the papers.

I have been trying to beat myself over the head with the truth that her choice does not reflect on my self worth...

... and rejection is a mindset that I have 100% control over.

And when I sign my D papers - it will not be because of ME.. but because of HER and HER CHOICES

I hope you believe this mindset as well.

August will be rough for both of us... but I have to believe that having some resolution (even if not the one we want) will be better than this limboland.

((( )))