That was pretty darn low for him to have lunch with her and your daughter.
You know there comes a time when we need to decide when we get to be happy Shay. We have a say in this ordeal.
I swear communication is the biggest key to making it or breaking it in a relationship. '
Did he convey to you at all his unhappiness? Granted 4 months ago he was happy and praising your for being his wife would definately make me feel loved and everything is ok.
We all have responsibilities to ourselves, for our own happiness. It seems alot of people seem to think that if they're unhappy in their marriage then that gives them the right to go out and find what they feel they're missing elsewhere.
But part of our responsibilities to ourselves is being able to see what it is that we're needing from someone, and be able to tell that person about it, and hope they're willing to work with us, so we don't go out and have affairs!
I was furious.I flipped out and today i told my attorney i wanted to file for divorce ASAP.
Don't make any big decisions while furious, please wait until you calm down first. It's not healthy to make life-changing decisions when you're not thinking clearly.
Originally Posted By: shaysmom
I just cant do this.He has hurt my daughter over & over by not coming home at night and leaving her crying to be with the OW.Im not strong enough to do this.
You CAN do it! Believe me, there are hundreds of us here that sympathize with what you're going through and nearly ALL of us went through the same stage as you where we told ourselves we can't do this. But you can, and when you come out the other side you'll be amazed at how much stronger you are than you thought you were.
Originally Posted By: shaysmom
I shouldnt have to compete with her.He is still lying about it too.Says they are just good friends.Why lie at this point?
Have you read DB and/ or DR yet? If not, please do. Both books will give you a lot of perspective on what you're going through. DB is NOT about competing with her, it's about making yourself a better, stronger, more attractive, more self-reliant person. THIS is how you get your H back, not by trying to prove to him that you're better than the OW but by making yourself a better person. And try not to be angry, that'll just keep pushing H away. Even if you are angry, act like your not. DB tip 19:
"19. No matter what you are feeling TODAY, only show your spouse happiness and contentment. Show him someone he would want to be around."
