but when i read it now again, what came to mind was : we are ALL too nice here to our WAS's. - as we strive to live from our higher selves
as for taking care of yourself - i think you are doing a very nice job of it lately RoRo
Thanks, zig! I've been not nice for so long, it actually feels good to do the opposite. I am enjoying pampering myself some. Never took time to do it before...hardly EVER!
Also, I think I got a a$$ backwards invite from H. He's been talking about The Dark Knight movie that's coming out this weekend for WEEKS! Last week during a conversation he gave me this strange look and said, "You know I'm going to watch the other two movies again before I see the new one." I just said, "Ok." He kept looking at me and said, "You know I have to see them." I was like of course you do. You love those movies.
So last night, while we were watching TV, a commercial for the movie came on. He says something about buying tickets (again with the strange look). He said they had been on sale for a few weeks. I asked him if HE had bought them yet, since he kept talking about it. He immediately pulls out his phone and starts looking for tickets. I then remember I can get cheaper tickets through my job, so I did offer to do that. Then he says they are showing the other 2 movies before hand starting at 6 pm Thursday evening (again with this look). I said Oh yeah, I saw that when we went to the movies the other week. I said, well you had already said you wanted to see all 3 of them, and this is perfect. Then I say and what time does the new one start? He tells me 12 midnight. I jokingly say of course you want to go do all of them, and end the conversation.
Why can't he just come out and ask me to go if he wants me to go? He's crazy! LOL
maybe he is very insecure and doesn't know if you want to be with him because he has been a jackwagon
maybe he is waiting for some sort of sign that you would like to do this with him
maybe he is waiting for YOU to make a move to let him know that he is welcome to make a move too
Fig, I think it was all of the above. We got the tickets today, but he had counted on me getting the tickets. I asked him if I was suppose to be getting the tickets. He said yes, and he would pay for them. Why couldn't he just say that the other day? UGH!
Here's something cute that happened: H went grocery shopping the other day, and bought me a little container of ice cream. Only when he got home he realized he picked up the wrong kind...one I probably wouldn't eat. We laughed about it, and told him I appreciated the thought. He seemed kind of disappointed that he had gotten the wrong kind, but I tried to downplay it, because it really wasn't that big of a deal. Plus, it was a kind he would probably eat, so it worked out. LOL
Your H and mine sound so similar, it's not even funny (well, it is).
Just catching up on what I've been missing. Lots of positives, both sitch-wise and also about you and your attitude. I love reading about your confidence and open mind, and your strength to keep going and not letting anything get to you. (((Ro)))
Ro, that is actually huge that you were able to laugh it off about the ice cream and focus on the good intentions. Can't speak for your H but I know in my life, I've felt beaten down at times because of how it appeared that my W would focus only on my negatives and disregard any positives until my negatives improved.
Me:45, W:45 S:16 D:13 M:22, T:25 Bomb: July 2010 Putting finances in order for "D" Continue to live in same home-separate rooms
Your H and mine sound so similar, it's not even funny (well, it is).
Just catching up on what I've been missing. Lots of positives, both sitch-wise and also about you and your attitude. I love reading about your confidence and open mind, and your strength to keep going and not letting anything get to you. (((Ro)))
It's funnier now than it was before. Maybe because I used to be so serious about stuff, and since I'm not...EVERYTHING IS FUNNY! LOL
I think H actually gets annoyed when I say something is not a big deal now. He'll get this look on his face, like he had already prepared for a fight, and since he isn't getting one, he doesn't know what to do. LOL
Ro, that is actually huge that you were able to laugh it off about the ice cream and focus on the good intentions. Can't speak for your H but I know in my life, I've felt beaten down at times because of how it appeared that my W would focus only on my negatives and disregard any positives until my negatives improved.
Ces, I worked on this with my IC, but didn't really get it until after BD. I've been trying to focus on the positives (thanks, LaBug & Ad!), and I just feel so much better.
Adinva 51, S20, S18 M24 total 6/15/11-12/1/12 From IDLY to H moving out 9/15/15-3/7/17 From negotiating SA to final D at age 50 5/8/17-now: New relationship with an old friend __ Happiness is a warm puppy.
