Hi Hopeful, it's been a long time. Sorry to hear that things aren't going well in the R.
Is this really what you want? It seems he hasn't really changed, at least to this outsider looking in. I think your overgrown kid analogy is on the money, you've always done the heavy lifting in this R.
My advice, for what it's worth would be to stop trying to get him to do or see anything and ask yourself, is this what I want?
My best to you ((( )))
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss
Labug, when he first came back, he was good, helping me with anything. Taking some of the stress off of me. That last for a short period of time. And now he is back to the same person he was before.
What I really want is to be happy with myself and with my marriage. But I cannot continue to live like this either.
