You are right KML! The funny part is it turns out this is a local wife of an art gallery owner. (She was drunk, tho) And she wants me to make the lamps and sell them for more money. And my DIL told the lady that I made cooler stuff. Like my Monstera Leaf high fire ceramics bowls. Anyway, I know I have told you all how much I LOVE my DIL! MY biggest fan.
Tom Petty is cool. I will check it out.
Me 57 XH 58 Sons age 32 & 27 M:32 D final 9/12 Bought 10 Acres and Living the Dream!
And frankly if the woman wanted to pay $200 I would let her . . . .
You stbx is a fool, as are all people in MLC. I have done kind and compassionate. If people want to be idiots and wreck their lives, whether it is through drink, drugs, over-spending, and/or walking out on a long and happy marriage, there isn't a darned thing anyone can do except watch them crash and burn.
My life is now mine and I am not going to waste it wringing my hands over a self centred and immature idiot. There are good and useful thinkgs I can do, and real fun to be had. I have been getting rid of a lot of leeches in my life, very gently - like real leeches if you dislodge them too fast theyjust cling harder. It feels good.
Ok Beatrice, I will continue to work on gently dislodging the leeches.
And yes, I know I can't stop anyone from crashing and burning. I just wish the flying parts and flaming debris weren't raining down on me so hard.
And I wish I had done things differently. But it all isn't on me. There is plenty of blame to go around. Right now I see how OVER we are. But it still hurts.
And I am looking forward to the day when I feel like my life is my own. No one else to worry about my stuff in the fridge, and only me and a critter or two to feed.
I have to get a root canal tomorrow. Happy, Happy, Joy, Joy....
Me 57 XH 58 Sons age 32 & 27 M:32 D final 9/12 Bought 10 Acres and Living the Dream!
Wendy, It all takes time...you will get to the other side and when you do, you'll discover a whole new world out there. You can't rush the process. You can't go back and change the past, but you have the present (a gift) to change what you want to change now. Have you thought about what you would like to change? Make a list and check the ideas off as you get to them. You'll be amazed at how much you accomplish.
Good luck with the root canal.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
I am pleased to announce I survived the root canal. My own dentist did it, and it was way easier, less pain than the one I had a few years ago. My tooth hurts like crazy today, Or should I say my mouth surrounding the tooth. But cold water doesn't hurt, so it is all good!
I started with a new in person counselor. Two actually, one for the weight loss program, and one for my ambien taking self. The weight loss one has me working on some Byron Katie thing called "The Work". He is a PhD candidate and on his rotation with the weight loss/behavorial health dept. He will only be around another month or two. Then he is on to oncology, where I have no plans to follow him!
The other doctor is a medical doctor, in his residency to be a full fledged psychiarist. He was interested in my recent forays into Buddahism. He said they call it Mindfullness Training.
I have many other things I want to say/share/vent. But will keep them to myself until it doesn't matter who is lurking in the shadows!
Off to weight loss C, and then to Pokai Bay to paddle and then the highlight of my day: Meditation class at the Buddist Temple.
Much Aloha to you all!
Me 57 XH 58 Sons age 32 & 27 M:32 D final 9/12 Bought 10 Acres and Living the Dream!
Wendy, As a reminder, do not sip from a straw for a while! I'm glad the root canal is behind you.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Hi Wendy ... didn't read through your whole new thread, but just wanted to say that I'm still here in the background. Not been on the forum very often since I'm in my old city, visiting with D25 and grandchildren. It's been fun, so far.
Take care.
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim
