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Hi Mr Bond

Thanks for that - I've just been laughing really loud to that comment.

I think the fact that she's hid them, makes me think of 2 possibilities - it's a surprise for me, the underwear is pretty hot - not so sure I wanna get involved with a vibrator though - if there's one thing I don't need it's something else chewing my ass

Or it's a statement of - I don't want or need you & this underwear is for somebody else.

But seriously though, I mean why is this stuff not bothering me?

Maybe I need to leave it a week or 2 to see if I feel the same way, but right now I'm feeling like I don't really care what she does & I might actually be OK with a formal separation.

I'm hoping this will pass, so I'm just going to take stock & think it over, without doing anything rash.

It's not bothering you because you have detached. The thing about the vibrator is odd though. Weren't the two of you having sex regularly?

would not mention contents of the package. It is personal info.

I would send a message to her to change the address so that items are shipped to her new address.


Be a gentleman.

bah... i forgot you two live together

still keep that to yourself and just put the package where you put all that mail. And leave it there.

Thanks Mr Bond

I think I really have detached, haven't I?

Wow, it's so refreshing to feel this way - a few weeks ago I'd have been crushed if I'd found that invoice for the kinky underwear & vibrator.

The sex has been sporadic, sometimes it'll be a week or 2 apart, and she admitted to me last week that she'd been masturbating quite a bit after she'd discovered online porn on her smartphone.

So lets see what I'm up against now...

The OM
Porn
Vibrator
Oh and all our R issues

For better or worse... they weren't joking with that vow!!

Thanks Chatterbug

I'm not going to mention it to my W, because she might be embarrassed about it & I don't want her feeling bad about that.

Do you think I should leave tellling my best friend what's going on (I haven't told him anything)& see how i feel about that in a week or so?

Bill

about your marriage.

the whole story.

That has two outcomes.

One he supports the marriage.

Two he supports you.

You know his character.

You know you could use some of that to your advantage. Maybe you can start indulging in some of her fantasies. For example, maybe you might want to surprise her with some toy or something else that might turn her on and especially turn her on towards you.

It sounds like there's some self-fulfillment that she's trying to get to. You will have to make the decision if you want to be part of that or not. That will decide on how far you will be detaching.

Oh and as for the suggestion of surprising her with a toy or technique that you think she'd enjoy, I'd make it sound like it was something you came up with. The knowledge of her purchase can be to your advantage.