PLEASE Don't drunk dial or text !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Let it out here!!!!!!
I used to do it ( shame shame) and what I thought was a very significant - if not, life- changing text- was really just pages and pages of my blah blah with all of my neediness, pleading and begging seeping through...what.a.turn.off!
TPS Me: 44 H: 42 M14 T17 S10 D7 10/10 H moves out after death of his father-same month 21/04/12 H is 'DONE' 04/05/12 OW/PA confirmed (rumors from 2010) July '14 H ends affair May '15 H moves back home
TPS Me: 44 H: 42 M14 T17 S10 D7 10/10 H moves out after death of his father-same month 21/04/12 H is 'DONE' 04/05/12 OW/PA confirmed (rumors from 2010) July '14 H ends affair May '15 H moves back home
Didn't do it! Have come away from the evening even more convinced that my wife is making a mistake. One I can't correct, but a mistake nonetheless. I'm not the unsociable monster she wants to believe I am. I only wish she could be here to have a good night with me...
as you're told in the beginning, you've been given the gift of time. use it wisely. live through this and get all you can from it. it will save your LIFE. in time, you'll be grateful for it.
That's why GAL is so important -- being around other people makes you less likely to believe any venom WAS is spewing. Take the long term issues to heart, don't pay any attention to the stuff said in the moment.
In order for W to convince herself that she's making the right decision, she has to cast you as the villain. When you don't play the role they get angry and will bait you. The longer you don't play the role, they have to eventually give it up.
Accuray
Married 18, Together 20, Now Divorced M: 48, W: 50, D: 18, S: 16, D: 12 Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 7/13/11 Start Reconcile: 8/15/11 Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 5/1/2014 (Divorced) In a New Relationship: 3/2015
What about getting together with friends??? Even if it is just to talk... this is all I did for several weeks when this first happened to me. It helps more than you know...
Don't stay alone right now.
Me: 32 H: 32 M 9 yrs #1 D7 #2 S5 #3 D2 Bomb 8/12/11 H moved out 8/14/11 PA started w/H & OW in 1/12 - found out 3/24/12 Got my own place 8/25/12 H & OW move in together 9/15/12 Still married.
Talk about morning after night before! Not sure last night was a great idea. Had fun but feeling rubbish now. Obviously, drinking is not the answer here! Feeling pretty low now. Not rock bottom but low nonetheless. I have IC tonight and am hoping to go to see a comedian after tickets permitting. Getting together with friends is a tough one as most have left the city and well to be honest I've been rubbish at staying I'm touch. I just feel bad contacting them out if the blue and unloading on them. Was out with a friend who has known me for years and is friends with my wife too. She couldn't understand what's going on either. I'm also a bit concerned I may be transferring my feelings onto a girl I work with. I know it's a terrible idea right now but it feels nice to have a connection with someone.
Had another teary session on the way to work. I had to collect my car from where I left it last night and saw her cycling into work. I don't think she saw me. I'm afraid I did turn around to try and catch up with her, it seemed like a good idea at that moment but she had disappeared.
Am currently very confused. Feeling really sad that our future together seems to be in tatters, worried about what's going to happen in future, scared that I'm not coping very well with this and concerned that I may be burying my head in the sand a bit. I know that I'll more than likely end up having to sell the house, find a new job etc and let her go completely but I really don't want to.
what you're feeling is normal. what you're doing is normal, too. you're thinking of the worst-case scenario.
you don't have a crystal ball. lots of people on here have felt as you do. some have R, some have D. you don't know which one you'll be.
however, if you keep a positive attitude, you'll increase your chances of getting what you're looking for in life. it may not be your W, when all is said and done and you've done the work you need to improve YOU.
move your focus to YOU. each time you start this downward cycle of thinking, try to catch yourself and move your thoughts to something better. pray, pray, for yourself and strength and be thankful for what you have.
"I'm afraid I did turn around to try and catch up with her, it seemed like a good idea at that moment but she had disappeared."
not a good idea. pursuing. should you be pursuing now?
M:63 H:53 S:41, SS:28, SS:25, SD:23 M:15 T:16
Bomb:12/17/11, "I think we should go our separate ways." H moves to his mother's house, 4/1/12 12/21/12: H moves back home, piecing
